pegkerr: (All we have to decide is what to do with)
and I sat down this morning and within fifteen minutes had come up with a forty item to-do list. I won't reproduce it here; some of it is quite personal to people other than me, and Rob doesn't agree with all of it.

Yet I have to do it.

I've knocked several items off today, but just looking at the list makes me tired.

No wonder I have a headache.
pegkerr: (Deal with it and keep walking)
Peg's to do list for the next several weeks before (and possibly after) Rob is out of the hospital:

•Finalize the kitchen repairs bid and pick paint colors Edited to add: The numbers are still a little squishy and may simply depend on what they are able to accomplish before Rob comes home.
•Contact bathroom contractor about coming back to do the tile work in the kitchen
•Speak with kitchen contractor about turning utility closet in the kitchen into a pantry. Spoken with him. This still needs to be done. Edited to add 11/24/14: The contractor is going to be doing this today.
•Buy new blinds for the kitchen.
•Determine what furniture to add to the kitchen (drop leaf table? Possible new center island?) and what, if any, should be taken out (coat box? Microwave cart?) If I decide on new pieces, try to find them for a reasonable price. Edited to add: Have ordered microwave cart--already received, which I need to assemble--and kitchen island. Coat box has been moved to the garage, and I have an interested buyer; just need to decide upon and let her know the price.
•Call Open Arms of Minnesota to notify them I need to cut my delivery in half since Rob is hospitalized.
•Get Rob checked into the hospital.
•Vote
•Go to work. Pay ALL the bills. Including the ones that Rob usually pays.Edited to add: Ongoing.
•Move stuff wherever possible so that the kitchen repairs can be completed. (Into the den? From one end of the kitchen to the other? Um...)Edited to add: OMG, so much moving around and shuffling of boxes. It feels like it is neverending, but my sister and mom came over and achieved superhuman work, shifting stuff around and paring and organizing. My guest room is now nearly finished. We can actually walk through the dining room now.
•Cull stuff from kitchen cabinets Edited to add: Ongoing.
•Contact the carpet installer and have him put the new carpet into the den.
•Contact the carpet installer again to let him know he left a carpet sample behind and leave it for him on the porch for him to pick up Edited to add: I've contacted him several times. He still hasn't picked it up.
•Contact bathroom contractor and ask him to remove trash receptacle from my garage. It is preventing me from parking my car inside the garage. Edited to add: I have attempted to contact him several times. Maddeningly, he still hasn't picked it up so my car is still outside. Continually being covered with frost and snow.
•Move Rob's car for street cleaning of autumn leaves
•Move Rob's car to Fiona's apartment building garage Edited to add: This has been delayed because we had to get the fob back from one of her roommates' mother. I desperately hope I can get this accomplished before Rob gets home from the hospital. But it takes coordinating schedules with me, Fiona, and someone who can drive me back after I drop the car off. Have been too busy to arrange. Edited to add 11/24/14: Done! And I forgot the handicapped tag from the glove compartment. Fiona has the fob but doesn't have Rob's car key. She is going to get the key from Rob on her next visit, get the handicapped tag, and return the key and tag to him.
•Pay the contractors when jobs are done. Update the spreadsheet and keep track of the receipts. (Ongoing)
•Set date and send out invitations for Garage Tetris work party.
•Pick up pallets from Best Buy for the garage reorganization Thanks for providing transportation, Dave M.
•Reorganize the boxes in the garage so more can be added (work party).
•Take the bookcase out of the garage and use some the contractor's paint to paint it. When it's dry, it'll go into the dining room and be restocked with books. Edited to add: Had hoped the kitchen contractor could do this, but he may not have time before Rob gets back. Now it looks as though we will use some of the paint left over from the kitchen and do this ourselves. Edited to add 11/24/14: Bookcase is now in the kitchen. Contractor has agreed to do this and hopefully will complete the project today or tomorrow
•Delegate some people to take certain objects out of the garage to possible new homes. Top of barbecue to scrap metal dealer. Old bicycle to nephews for parts? See if anyone can take the task to see if the ebay store in Edina would accept Rob's law library books to try to sell on eBay. Edited to add Partially done. My nephew is now doing a blog about the process of stripping down and rebuilding Rob's old bicycle.
•Take boxes in Fiona's old bed room and move some to garage, and the rest to the den.
•Turn Fiona's old bedroom into guest room. Rearrange the furniture, including the new futon. Rearrange the closet in there, and put sheets and towels in the dresser, clean out old medications, and set it up to be a medications/first aid only cabinet. Buy lamp for corner table. Hang artwork. Edited to add: Fiona still needs to go through some things. I still need to file some things. One piece of artwork is hung, another needs to be put up. But it looks much, much better.
•Text girls regarding various objects: keep or discard? Are they willing to take them? Ongoing
•Visit Rob in the hospital (ongoing). Take him his mail, bring home his dirty laundry. (Dirty laundry which must be washed SEPARATELY due to nasty chemotherapy drugs). Bring clean laundry back.
•Return Rob's books to the library. Pick up the book he had placed on reserve and deliver it to him.
•Buy a love seat for the den (We've picked one at Ikea. And no, I am not going to drive to pick it up or assemble it myself. I will PAY to have someone do that).Edited to add: shout out of thanks to my neighbor who has volunteered to pick up and assemble this once we purchase it. Done!
•Buy a single sleeper futon for Fiona's old bed room/eventually my office (several relatives have volunteered to come from out of town for caregiving, and we have no guest room). Fiona asked me to have her come along since she had plenty of painful experience with Bad Futons and can hopefully help me avoid them. Edited to add: As mentioned above, futon now has been picked up and is in place.
•Finish research and buy an air purifier. Edited to add Mom bought two hospital grade HEPA air purifiers for me, and I've been running them. My asthma is already better. Thanks, Mom!
•Buy a medical alert bracelet for Rob.
•Contact my nephews and arrange time to put furniture back in the den. Edited to add: This was done by the Garage Tetris Party work crew
•Put up the floor-to-ceiling bookcase in the den and replace all the books. Edited to add: Okay, some of the books. What do I do with the rest?
•Put up new cases for media Edited to add: Garage Tetris party did this.
•Do my best to set up Rob's electronics in the den Edited to add: My nephew David got a start on this.
•Move the large screen TV into the den, which is where it has belonged all along.
•Contact someone to do duct cleaning Edited to add: I contacted a company to arrange this. I had [livejournal.com profile] naomikritzer come over and help me disassemble an entire bookcase because it was standing on a cold air return. The bookcase and sixteen boxes of books were put out on the front porch. But when the duct cleaners arrived today, they said they couldn't clean our ducts because we have an old octopus-style furnace, and forcing air through the duct system would simply blow asbestos into the air. Not what we want, particularly with someone immune impaired. They suggested I cover the outflow vents with cheesecloth. And buy a new furnace. That latter bit of advice, especially, was not very helpful. And it was maddening that we had taken down that bookcase (and put it back up) for nothing. But look at it this way: I saved $400.
•Buy cheesecloth. Cover the vents. (maybe we won't need to do this until we reach the stem cell transplant stage.)
•Steam clean the carpets upstairs My sister Betsy did this; thank you, thank you.
•Dust everything everywhere (ongoing) Edited to add 11/24/14: Much dusting was done this past weekend.
•Put the garden to bed Edited to add: Alas, a premature snow storm may have rendered this moot.
•Figure out where family thanksgiving will be held (not my house, obviously).
•Figure out whether Rob can attend (probably won't know until that week). The doctors say he can.
•Figure out how I am going to get the items I received from Open Arms of Minnesota for Thanksgiving (frozen turkey, pie, other Thanksgiving fixings) to my sister-in-law who is going to be cooking the Thanksgiving dinner. Done! Ingredients handed off.
•Figure out how to get Delia home from the University for Thanksgiving if I can't leave Rob alone. Perhaps she can grab a ride from someone, or perhaps she will stay there and have Thanksgiving with her uncle and aunt? Some other arrangement have been made, and Elinor Dashwood is not talking about it.
•Set up 24/7 caregiving schedule for Rob (through Christmas)? Edited to add: Uh, I know who the caregiver is for the first week.
•Christmas shopping. Probably entirely on line.
•Buy a new electric blanket (ours is old and grotty and therefore unsafe for the immune-suppressed) and new sheets (we have only one set, and they have to be cleaned/changed frequently when he comes home).
•Buy pillow protectors for our bed and a mattress cover for when guests use the futon. Done!
•Buy a throw rug for the entrance to Rob's den/mancave. Done!
•Arrange to have new smoke detectors installed Done!
•Arrange to have new doorbell installed Done!
•Arrange to get the light over our bed fixed--pull chain got pulled out of the overhead fan. Done!
•Pick up chain extender for pull chain for the light. Done!
•Pick up Rob's glasses for repair because the nose piece snapped off and get them back to him. My sister Betsy picked them up and got them repaired and handed them off to me, and I got them back to Rob tonight.
•Clean EVERYTHING in the kitchen once doors are rehung. Counters, floor, appliances, inside cabinets. Edited to add 11/24/14: The contractors are back today doing touch ups, so more cleaning may be required.
•Buy a new flatware chest for the good flatware kept in one of my kitchen drawers, since my old one is falling apart and the part that holds the knives is flopping over the other pieces. (Stopped at Bed Bath & Beyond yesterday, but discovered the piece I wanted was online only. Will do further research).
•Lay down new shelf paper and repack the cabinets, pulling the kitchen back together. Done! At least as much as can be done until the pantry is finished and the kitchen island is assembled.
•Pick which items will go in the new microwave cart once it's assembled, pack it, and put it in place. Get rid of old cart. Done!
•Arrange with Betsy and GregLuke and Julius to pick up the kitchen island from my workplace once it's delivered there (they are going to take it to their home here to assemble and then deliver it to mine). Put it into place and fill the cabinets.
•Buy stools for the drop leaf table at the kitchen cabinet.
•Send out holiday cards and letter (already purchased).
•Speak with visitation pastor at church about coming to give me communion. I won't be able to go to church until Rob can be left alone--I'm not planning to arrange caregivers for the weekend Edited to add: I've spoken with him, but we haven't set a time yet.

It would be nice, but I'm not sure I'll get to it:
•Contracting for electrical repairs
•Contract to get an iron hand rail installed for the steps up to our house Done! And installed.
•Buying new towels and rugs for our newly refinished bathroom
•Thank you notes Edited to add: I've managed to write a few. Otherwise I'm relying on heartfelt, short emails.
•Keep up with Alternity
pegkerr: (Deal with it and keep walking)
•Called insurer with a question about coverage
•Called a medical provider for Fiona and argued with them about a bill
•Texted both girls inquiring about insurance coverage they have through their colleges.
•Ordered microwave cart
•Attempted to order kitchen island (back-ordered till end of the month) and had myself put on list to be notified when they are back in
•Researched duct cleaning companies
•Asked [livejournal.com profile] naomikritzer to check out their reviews on Angie's list
•Using the information [livejournal.com profile] naomikritzer gave me, contacted three duct cleaning companies and lined up an appointment with one to come out and clean the ducts Thursday
•Emailed my mom to ask her to research best buys on electric blankets
•Arranged to get work off Thursday, arranged for helpers Wednesday night and Thursday morning to pull boxes, etc., away from ducts for Thursday afternoon appointment
•Received and reviewed updated kitchen bid from contractor, sent reply email
•The stair rails outside our house have been installed! Spoke with the contractor about arranging to get him a check tomorrow
•Dashed home for five minute consult with kitchen contractor, took pictures of stair rails to send to family, picked up a coupon
•Went to therapy appointment. Delivered note from Rob to another medical provider.
•Grabbed a quick dinner on the road
•Drove to hospital where I visited with Rob and friends Scott and Dana
•Reviewed information Mom sent about electric blankets
•Contacted both girls to ask what color blankets they would like
•With Rob, ordered electric blankets for family online (more than 50% off!)
•Briefly discussed kitchen bid with Rob and got check from him to give to kitchen contractor tomorrow
•Took a few items home for Rob
•Home at 9:30 p.m. Briefly considered balancing my checkbook and decided Nah. I've done enough today.
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Peg's to do list for the next several weeks before (and possibly after) Rob is out of the hospital:

•Finalize the kitchen repairs bid and pick paint colors
•Contact bathroom contractor about coming back to do the tile work in the kitchen
•Speak with kitchen contractor about turning utility closet in the kitchen into a pantry.
•Determine what furniture to add to the kitchen (drop leaf table? Possible new center island?) and what, if any, should be taken out (coat box? Microwave cart?) If I decide on new pieces, try to find them for a reasonable price.
•Call Open Arms of Minnesota to notify them I need to cut my delivery in half since Rob is hospitalized.
•Get Rob checked into the hospital.
•Vote
•Go to work. Pay ALL the bills. Including the ones that Rob usually pays.Edited to add: Ongoing.
•Move stuff wherever possible so that the kitchen repairs can be completed. (Into the den? From one end of the kitchen to the other? Um...)Edited to add: partially done, by a crew of lovely ladies who came this past Thursday. Thanks!
•Cull stuff from kitchen cabinets Edited to add: Ongoing.
•Contact the carpet installer and have him put the new carpet into the den.
•Contact the carpet installer again to let him know he left a carpet sample behind and leave it for him on the porch for him to pick up
•Move Rob's car for street cleaning of autumn leaves
•Move Rob's car, as necessary, during snow emergencies (ongoing) Edited to add: This morning's golden realization: Fiona has an assigned INDOOR PARKING PLACE at her apartment building that neither she nor her roommates are using. She's going to check, but we think Rob's car can move there for the winter.
•Pay the contractors when jobs are done. Update the spreadsheet and keep track of the receipts. (Ongoing)
•Set date and send out invitations for Garage Tetris work party.
•Pick up pallets from Best Buy for the garage reorganization Thanks for providing transportation, Dave M.
•Reorganize the boxes in the garage so more can be added (work party).
•Take the bookcase out of the garage and use some the contractor's paint to paint it. When it's dry, it'll go into the dining room. Edited to add: Have emailed the contractor about seeing whether he can do this and what it will cost
•Delegate some people to take certain objects out of the garage to possible new homes. Top of barbecue to scrap metal dealer. Old bicycle to nephews for parts? See if anyone can take the task to see if the ebay store in Edina would accept Rob's law library books to try to sell on eBay. Edited to add Partially done. Some of these items were simply left out for sanitation. My cousin Jill helpfully took a carload of stuff to Savers. I took the punching bag and sold it today to Play It Again Sports. Still need to get to the ebay store.
•Take boxes in Fiona's old bed room and move some to garage, and the rest to the den.Edited to add: Partially done. Garage boxes are out.
•Text girls regarding various objects: keep or discard? Are they willing to take them? Ongoing
•Visit Rob in the hospital (ongoing). Take him his mail, bring home his dirty laundry. (Dirty laundry which must be washed SEPARATELY due to nasty chemotherapy drugs).
•Buy a love seat for the den (We've picked one at Ikea. And no, I am not going to drive to pick it up or assemble it myself. I will PAY to have someone do that).Edited to add: shout out of thanks to my neighbor who has volunteered to pick up and assemble this once we purchase it.
•Buy a single sleeper futon for Fiona's old bed room/eventually my office (several relatives have volunteered to come from out of town for caregiving, and we have no guest room). Fiona asked me to have her come along since she had plenty of painful experience with Bad Futons and can hopefully help me avoid them.
•Finish research and buy an air purifier.
•Buy a medical alert bracelet for Rob.
•Contact my nephews and arrange time to put furniture back in the den. Edited to add: This was done by the Garage Tetris Party work crew
•Put up the floor-to-ceiling bookcase in the den and replace all the books. Edited to add: Okay, some of the books. What do I do with the rest?
•Put up new cases for media Edited to add: Garage Tetris party did this.
•Do my best to set up Rob's electronics in the den Edited to add: My nephew David got a start on this.
•Move the large screen TV into the den, which is where it has belonged all along.
•Contact someone to do duct cleaning
•Steam clean the carpets upstairs
•Dust everything everywhere
•Put the garden to bed Edited to add: Alas, a premature snow storm may have rendered this moot.
•Figure out where family thanksgiving will be held (not my house, obviously).
•Figure out whether Rob can attend (probably won't know until that week).
•Figure out how to get Delia home from the University for Thanksgiving if I can't leave Rob alone. Perhaps she can grab a ride from someone, or perhaps she will stay there and have Thanksgiving with her uncle and aunt?
•Set up 24/7 caregiving schedule for Rob (through Christmas)?
•Christmas shopping. Probably entirely on line.
•Buy a new electric blanket (ours is old and grotty and therefore unsafe for the immune-suppressed) and new sheets (we have only one set, and they have to be cleaned/changed frequently when he comes home).
•Send out holiday cards and letter (already purchased).

It would be nice, but I'm not sure I'll get to it:
•Contracting for electrical repairs
•Contract to get an iron hand rail installed for the steps up to our house
•Buying new towels and rugs for our newly refinished bathroom
•Thank you notes
•Keep up with Alternity
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Read the details at our CaringBridge post here.

Peg's to do list for the next several weeks before (and possibly after) Rob is out of the hospital:

•Finalize the kitchen repairs bid and pick paint colors
•Call Open Arms of Minnesota to notify them I need to cut my delivery in half since Rob is hospitalized.
•Get Rob checked into the hospital.
•Vote
•Go to work. Pay ALL the bills. Including the ones that Rob usually pays.
•Move stuff wherever possible so that the kitchen repairs can be completed. (Into the den? From one end of the kitchen to the other? Um...)
•Contact the carpet installer and have him put the new carpet into the den.
•Pay the contractors when jobs are done. Update the spreadsheet and keep track of the receipts.
•Set date and send out invitations for Garage Tetris work party.
•Reorganize the boxes in the garage so more can be added (work party).
•Take the bookcase out of the garage and use some the contractor's paint to paint it. When it's dry, it'll go into the dining room.
•Delegate some people to take certain objects out of the garage to possible new homes. Top of barbecue to scrap metal dealer. Old bicycle to nephews for parts? See if anyone can take the task to see if the ebay store in Edina would accept Rob's law library books to try to sell on eBay.
•Take boxes in Fiona's old bed room and move some to garage, and the rest to the den.
•Visit Rob in the hospital (ongoing).
•Buy a love seat for the den (We've picked one at Ikea. And no, I am not going to drive to pick it up or assemble it myself. I will PAY to have someone do that).Edited to add: shout out of thanks to my neighbor who has volunteered to pick up and assemble this once we purchase it.
•Buy a single sleeper futon for Fiona's old bed room/eventually my office (several relatives have volunteered to come from out of town for caregiving, and we have no guest room). Fiona asked me to have her come along since she had plenty of painful experience with Bad Futons and can hopefully help me avoid them.
•Finish research and buy an air purifier.
•Buy a medical alert bracelet for Rob.
•Contact my nephews and arrange time to put furniture back in the den.
•Put up the floor-to-ceiling bookcase in the den and replace all the books.
•Put up new cases for media
•Do my best to set up Rob's electronics in the den
•Move the large screen TV into the den, which is where it has belonged all along.
•Contact someone to do duct cleaning
•Steam clean the carpets upstairs
•Dust everything everywhere
•Put the garden to bed
•Figure out where family thanksgiving will be held (not my house, obviously).
•Figure out whether Rob can attend (probably won't know until that week).
•Figure out how to get Delia home from the University for Thanksgiving if I can't leave Rob alone. Perhaps she can grab a ride from someone, or perhaps she will stay there and have Thanksgiving with her uncle and aunt?
•Set up 24/7 caregiving schedule for Rob (through Christmas)?
•Christmas shopping. Probably entirely on line.
•Buy a new electric blanket (ours is old and grotty and therefore unsafe for the immune-suppressed) and new sheets (we have only one set, and they have to be cleaned/changed frequently when he comes home).
•Send out holiday cards and letter (already purchased).

It would be nice, but I'm not sure I'll get to it:
•Contracting for electrical repairs
•Contract to get an iron hand rail installed for the steps up to our house
•Buying new towels and rugs for our newly refinished bathroom
•Thank you notes
•Keep up with Alternity

Do you wonder why I've turned out all the lights tonight and am not handing out trick or treat candy?
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5:40 a.m.: Alarm goes off.

6:40 a.m.: Get into car with Rob and Delia

7:00 a.m.: Drop Rob at hospital for antibody infusion. Drive Delia to another location for a medical appointment.

7:20 a.m.: Delia and I stop for breakfast

8:00 a.m.: Delia has her medical appointment. Receives her prescription for a light box for seasonal affective disorder. Appointment lasts until 8:50 a.m.

9:00 a.m. Drop Delia off at home

9:10 a.m. Drop off prescription for light box at medical supply company

9:30 a.m. Arrive at work. As I work, monitor Rob's progress in the hospital (via phone) and Delia's progress (via email) in trying to get her student status unstuck with her college (see previous entry).

2:45 p.m. Leave work

3:00 p.m. Pick up Rob, who is tired, hungry and rather grumpy. Also irked that they can't take his PICC line out: he is extremely low on platelets and will have to go back into the hospital on Friday and possibly Monday to get some.

3:30 p.m. Arrive home. Rob decides he really really really must have pizza.

4:00 p.m. Arrive at Little Caesar's Pizza and buy something totally grease-laden that he just has to have.

4:30 p.m. Bring pizza home. Rob asks, "Don't you have to pick up the Open Arms delivery on Wednesdays?" Curse a lot. Get back into the car.

4:45 p.m. Arrive at Open Arms and request this week's allotment of food.

5:00 p.m. Arrive home with the food, which Rob and Delia put away.
At this point Rob informs me that Delia is hosting a birthday party for a friend at our house tomorrow night and has invited 30 friends via Facebook. This is the first I have heard of it.

5:10 p.m. Go to Delia's room and ask, in a rather shaky voice, what, exactly, she expects me to do to help with this party. She looks alarmed. "It won't be 30 people! Promise! Maybe two people will show up, and that's just because we texted them. We can serve spaghetti. It'll be easy!"

5:30 p.m. Go out on an additional errand. At this point I decide I deserve dinner out myself, dagnabbit, and so I eat at Chipotle.

7:00 p.m. back home. Make previous entry and this one. Still to come tonight: at 8:15 I'll be flushing Rob's PICC line with heperin (?) to keep his blood from clotting, a ten to twenty minute ritualistic procedure (involving a fair number of steps to ensure sterility). This has to be done at least once every twenty-four hours.

After that, I am probably going to be curling up with a good book. Somehow I doubt I'll get around to doing laundry, washing the dishes or balancing my checkbook. And nobody better disturb me, dammit.
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  • Go grocery shopping (I went about five times this weekend, picking up various supplies at different places)
  • Drive Rob to chemo
  • Send in the paperwork for Rob's disability parking permit
  • Go to work (Thursday)
  • Pay bills
  • Pick Rob up from chemo
  • Brew Commonweal Healing Tea (healing tea from The Cancer-Fighting Kitchen. Kinda like chai, except without any tea. A two and a half hour process)
  • Make ginger syrup for homemade ginger ale (same cookbook. A two hour process).
  • Make dinner
  • Do the dishes
  • Breakfast Friday: buttermilk pancakes from scratch
  • Do the dishes
  • Take Delia to two different doctor appointments
  • Stop at Walgreens for more supplies, prescription
  • Ran Delia to the church for an overnight
  • Returned Fiona's library books
  • Email
  • Dinner out at a friends' house Friday night (thanks,[livejournal.com profile] minnehaha B and K!)
  • Continuous phone calls all weekend with various family and friends checking on Rob's progress
  • Breakfast: pumpkin waffles from scratch
  • Do the dishes
  • Take Rob to Best Buy to pick up various things
  • Take Delia to Target to pick up school supplies
  • Get my hair cut (as previously reported, learned that my bald patch is spreading)
  • Keep checking on Rob's welfare, making sure he's drinking liquid at all time (i.e., mix the Commonweal tea, mix the ginger ale)
  • Make dinner
  • Do the dishes
  • Do CaringBridge post
  • Go to church
  • Skype call with Fiona
  • Start beef broth (same cookbook. An 8-24 hour process)
  • Make homemade ice cream (all for ME! Neither Rob nor Delia will eat avocado ice cream)
  • Go for a half hour walk for exercise
  • Order various cancer-related books online
  • Do the dishes (ha, didn't have to make dinner this time--my sister brought it over! Thanks, Cindy!)
  • Strip the bed, launder the sheets, put them back on the bed

For some reason, I didn't get the kitchen floor washed or the lawn mowed, or the garden weeded.

Geez, I'm such a slacker.

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I'm having terrific troubles with my computer, which has been fritzing out and crashing repeatedly (which has been driving me up a wall), and I've been excessively distracted with all the end of the year stuff and Other Stuff Elinor Dashwood Does Not Mention. I'm afraid I have been very spotty about responding and may have missed some things. Leave me a comment here if you need to yell to get my attention for something. I do not usually feel like such a ditz, but somehow I am this week (Exhibit A: my last entry).

Supermom

Jan. 4th, 2011 09:58 am
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I was a super mom yesterday.

Went to work. Earned income.
Stopped at bank. Took out money to give to husband since he is not earning income or unemployment.
Came home. Made nutritious dinner (chicken, brown rice, fruit salad: apples, oranges, pomagranate seeds).
Counseled Delia on a school problem and helped her brainstorm a strategy for addressing it.
Went to sparring with Fiona. Hit people. Hit pads. Did abs workout.
Came home. Assisted Delia with homework project.
Then shortly before 10:00 pm, just as I was sitting down with a sigh of relief with my new Barnes & Noble Nook, Fiona came to me and said, "I just remembered: there's a book that would be perfect for my IB Extended Essay [the mega-important paper that is due on Friday; she's doing it on the Woman Warrior in fantasy fiction.] I heard the author speaking at Portus and I thought that what she said about the book would be spot-on for my project. I just remembered it now. How can I get the book in time to use it for my paper?"

I suppressed a groan. "Fiona, why are you telling me this now instead of a month ago?"

"I forgot it was being published. But it would be so perfect..."

I looked up the book online. It would be perfect. I checked the Hennepin County library system. They didn't have it. I checked the U of MN library system. They had it, but it was in the St. Paul library, and I don't have check out privileges anyway.

"Maybe there's an e-book edition?" We checked. It wasn't available for the Barnes & Noble Nook. But it was available for the Kindle.

Damn.

I thought. My parents have a Kindle. But 10:00 p.m....they'd be in bed already. Then I thought of my sister Betsy, who I knew had one, too. I gave Fiona a look. "I could call Betsy, and see if she'd load it and then drive out there to pick it up." I winced. "Tonight. You owe me."

"I know." She gave me a doe-eyed look. "Please?"

So I called and spoke to Betsy's husband, Greg. It turned out they would be willing to download the book and loan the Kindle (Fiona had $20 to pay them). They were just about to drive downtown to drop their son off for a bus ride to Chicago. So Fiona and I drove downtown and met Betsy, who gave us the Kindle. Fiona started reading it on the drive home and said, yes, it was perfect.

So I get karmic Mommy points galore. Fiona has already announced on Facebook that her Mom's the best.
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I filed much financial paperwork. I caught up on my financial bookkeeping. I hectored Fiona into signing up for Fastweb. I did laundry. I tried a new nutritious recipe so breakfast for the girls tomorrow is ready and waiting for them. I walked to the hardware store to get hardware to allow me to hang the new Moroccan lanterns on the porch (they look lovely). I downloaded the karate belt test pictures for two dojos, cropped them, and got them off to the webmaster. I updated the names of the kids who passed this month's test. I cleaned part of the living room, discarding outdated mail. I updated my address book. I went out for coffee with Mom. I got painting supplies so we could get the last painting job finished (the trim on the garage). I bought new drinking tumblers. I gave the girls backrubs. I did dishes. I read fun, mindless books. I gave myself a manicure and pedicure.

Okay, I didn't do slow kicks. Shut up. Don't judge me.

Still, I'm really happy with all that I got accomplished this weekend.
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It's awesome to have a totally clear day outside for my birthday. Free birthday coffee from Caribou for the win.

Chris Stewart in another racism accusations kerfluffle. Surprised? Not. Judging from experience, I'm much more inclined to believe Tim Cadotte.

The reunion for the Mexico mission group is this coming Sunday, which is the same day as the May Day parade. I'm wildly irritated about this; I don't want to miss the parade, but the girls don't want to miss the reunion, which would mean driving to Minnetonka.

I have been forced to hand over the cell phone to Rob, who needs it for his job with the census, so Mom, if you try to call it to reach me, you'll reach him instead. It is making me remarkably twitchy to be without it.

The Tonks and the Auror's EP "Tonks for the Memories" has given me hope again for the Wizard Rock EP of the Month Club.

Tonight we have a simultaneous Girl Scout meeting, karate class and school meeting for parents. I suppose I'm supposed to get dinner in there somewhere, too, only I have no idea where.

I need a book to read.

I am starting to get a very very tiny itch to write original fiction again. I'm not sure what, if anything, will come of it.

My lawn looks just terrible, and I have zero incentive to do anything with the garden this year. Lack of money, time, motivation. My sister assures me that gardening gets easier when the kids get a bit older. Until then, avert your eyes when passing my house. Sorry.

Bete noir flourless chocolate cake for lunch, also for the win. It's my birthday. Bite me.

I'm not going to start riding my bike May 1, because of the knee problems. I am feeling a great deal of guilt over this. But my knee hurts every time I do something as innocent as hiking it up to cross my legs.

Sometimes grace is all about just going on with your life, despite everything. There may be pride there, too. I've been taught to extol one and be suspicious of the other, but I suppose it doesn't matter as long as the result is the same. Right?
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I don't know how the hell we're going to do this . . .

Fiona really really wants to go to the teen book club at the library tonight. 6:30 - 7:30 (I think)

Delia: girl scouts from 6:00 - 8:00.

Me: Karate class 6:30 - 7:20. And there's a PTA meeting I REALLY want to go to at Fiona's school, on teaching teens to manage money, that's from 7:00 - 8:15.

Oh, yeah, and Fiona and Delia have a karate class 7:20 - 8:10. That's a lost cause.

Of course, the library, the dojo, the school and the girl scouts location are all in four COMPLETELY different directions.

Gah!

*whimper*

Mar. 25th, 2008 11:28 pm
pegkerr: (Use well the days)
I am toast. Just knackered. 17,300 steps on my pedometer today. Full work day, cook dinner, squeezed in making one soulcollage card (my card for Jane Austen; I'm pretty pleased with it) take Delia to Girl Scouts, run to Fiona's high school for parent meeting (I cut the church meeting), run to dojo for karate class, and then clean the dojo until 10:30 p.m. Then talk budgeting stuff with Rob (v. stressful) when I got home.

Somedays, I truly do everything. But I'm not a superwoman, just a very ordinary one, who is about to crawl, painfully, off to bed.

(Since there's still a 1/2 hour to go on March 25, Happy New Year to all my Gondorian friends.)
pegkerr: (Use well the days)
Friday
Go to work.
Pay bills
Lunch with [livejournal.com profile] jbru to borrow the yoga book.
Check P.O. Box.
Come home, make dinner, taking particular pains to feed Delia well. (Fiona possibly at Corwin's overnight, working on history day project??? Note: Discuss her plans in morning before she leaves for school.) She's staying here tonight, so I drive her to school in the morning.
Drive Delia to black belt pre-screening. Arrive by 6:30 p.m. Make sure she has plenty of water. (Note: Rob will miss it; doesn't get off work until 8:00 p.m.)

Saturday
Get Fiona to high school by 8:00 a.m. for history day (discuss: do I have to pick her up or will Corwin's mother drop her off when history day is done?)
Delia doctor appointment 9:00 a.m.
No karate--no time, too much to do. Possibly go back to high school to see history day project presentations?
Buy new shoes for Delia
Go to Minn-stf meeting to discuss Super Sekrit project having to do with Minicon.
Try to squeeze in run to get mat paper supplies for soulcollaging.

Make arrangements to pick up magazines from [livejournal.com profile] mizzlaurajean, ditto. She has said she'll drop them off. Thanks!
Note: Rob can't help with any of this; works all day.

Sunday
Get girls to church. Don't forget the Girl Scout cookies that Delia has to deliver to various people there. Fiona has agreed to participate in reading. Church goes until 11:30 a.m.
Drop Delia home, race to Minnetonka by noon for meeting for Fiona's Mexico mission trip. Remember to bring forms to turn in. Make final payment for trip.
Come home. Check with Delia re: progress on her packing for school four-day trip to northern camp. Doubtless will have to run errands to pick up stuff for her to take.
Where on earth can I buy mittens in March? [[livejournal.com profile] pameladean is donating a pair and will drop them off. Thanks!] Does she have flashlight batteries? Yes. Wool socks? We'll make do with what we have Long underwear? She's borrowing a pair.
Create packing list and pack for my own retreat. Print out directions for getting there.
Clean dojo? Rob has volunteered to take my turn if necessary. Fiona and I did it
Do laundry. I have no clean socks.
Note: [all together now:] Rob can't help with any of this; works all day. If he cleans the dojo, it'll be after he gets off work.

Monday
Drop Delia off at her school at (I think?) 6:45 a.m., with all her luggage, for class trip. Don't forget to include her medication. (Double check the time)
My doctor's appointment 8:00 a.m.
Leave for retreat.


I don't think I'm going to have much time to clean up the house (which is a MESS) or balance my checkbook.

I feel . . . rather stressed.
pegkerr: (Family)
Six medical appointments.

Three Girl Scout special events (nope, turns out, just two. The Girl Scout Encampment is in April, not March). Am not sure whether the two regular Girl Scout meetings will be cancelled or held as usual.

Karate portraits.

Fiona's birthday (must get her birthday portrait taken).

Delia's four day class trip. (Get paperwork signed by doctor and turned into school)

Planning meeting for Fiona's Mexico mission trip (get paperwork signed and notarized).

Fiona's Mexico mission trip.

Peg's personal retreat.

Belt test pictures taken at two different dojos on two different dates.

Minicon.

Forty-four karate classes, if we went to every one (we won't).

Ten sessions of cleaning the dojo, split between Rob and me. (Between the karate classes and cleaning the dojo, someone from my family is at the dojo every day of the week.)

Delia's first black belt pre-screening.

A church council meeting that Peg won't be able to attend.

A church education group work meeting that Peg also won't be able to attend.

Lenten Souper suppers, followed by confirmation class. Fiona has been cutting these to go to black belt class. I may stay for a few, since they're following a parent/child format for a series called "Parenting Your Teenager."

Easter. We'll be at Minicon instead.

A school parent meeting.

Oh yeah, and we have day jobs in there, somewhere.

My calendar is a mess.

Tonight

Feb. 5th, 2008 02:23 pm
pegkerr: (Default)
Really, it's insane.

Fiona has an afterschool meeting with the robotics team, so she'll be staying at school instead of bussing home. I get home from work at about 5:00 p.m. Then:

Robotics pot-luck at 5:40 - 6:40 p.m. Parents bring a hot dish and see what the kids have been building. Delia volunteered to make a cake when she gets home from school for our contribution.

Delia has karate class at 6:20. Will we be able to get her there in time? How do we get her home?

Precinct caucuses at 7:00 p.m. until whenever.

I have a karate class at 8:00 I probably won't be able to attend.

Then, I'm supposed to clean the dojo, starting at 9:00 p.m. This generally runs an hour and a half. If the caucus runs long, I might get out of there very late indeed.

In addition, this is the night before Delia's Learning Works application is due; I'd wanted to go over her essay again with her. When am I going to fit that in and still get her to bed on time??? Maybe we can squeeze in going over it again before leaving for the potluck.

Good thing the Girl Scouts meeting got cancelled.

Note to self: don't forget to to charge the phone and the Palm Pilot, since the battery is dead on both.
pegkerr: (Family)
5:15 Peg gets home. Talk with Rob. Fiona is at school. I ask Rob whether he is picking her up, and he says that he doesn't on Monday nights; she's driven home by her friend Corwin's Dad on Mondays. (Rob and Corwin's dad share car-pooling duties on Mondays and Tuesdays, when both girls have after-school activities.)

5:25 Rob and Delia leave for Delia's 5:40 karate class. The plan is that I make dinner to be ready at about 6:30, giving me 15 minutes to eat with them before leaving for my 7:00 sparring class.

5:30 Fiona calls. "Where's Dad? He's supposed to pick me up." Perplexed, I tell Fiona that Rob told me that he didn't think he had to do so. "But Dad always drives on Mondays." I tell her that either Dad or I will come to pick her up.

5:35 I call the dojo to see if Rob has arrived there yet. I am told that he isn't there but Delia is. I ask to speak with Delia. "Where is Daddy? Did he leave to pick up Fiona? Fiona called asking where he is." Delia replies, perplexed, "I don't know where he is. He just dropped me off without saying where he was going." I curse under my breath and tell her, "Then I have to go pick up Fiona and Corwin. If he gets back, have him call me on the cell."

5:40 I leave a note for Rob, telling him what's going on in case he gets home, and adding that we will get him a cell phone because it is driving me crazy that he doesn't have one. I get changed into my gi, kiss the prospect of dinner goodbye, grab my sparring bag, and head out to the high school.

5:50 On the way there, I get a call on the cell from Rob, who is calling me from the dojo (he'd briefly gone to the pharmacy to get a prescription, which is why he wasn't at the dojo when I called earlier). I pull over and take the call, tell him that Fiona is expecting him to pick her and Corwin up. "Oh. Oh, right. Mondays. Yeah, I do those. Okay, I'll go get them." I refrain from swearing at him. Barely.

6:00 Arrive back home. Look through the cookbooks. Start making corn and red pepper chowder, something I haven't tried before. I look at the clock. If I hurry, I can still get it done by 6:30.

6:25 Fiona arrives home with Rob. "I have to get something to eat right away and then Daddy's driving me back to the high school for a robotics meeting." I tell her that dinner will be ready in five minutes, and she can wait that long. "I don't have time to wait that long," she says. I lose my temper. "You can wait five minutes for me to get dinner on the table. The robotics meeting isn't going anywhere." Fiona stomps up the stairs, furious.

6:30. I call for Rob and discover he isn't in the house. Neither is Delia. I call up the stairs for Fiona, who descends in high dudgeon to tell me that Rob went back to the dojo to get Delia.

"You mean she wasn't with you?" I ask, surprised.

"No, Dad had to drive Corwin home. So he didn't have time to go back to get Delia before driving me home to get something to eat."

I groan and wonder why the hell Rob didn't get Fiona something at Subway, right by the dojo. "That means I'll have to drive you back to school. Which means I'll be late to my own karate class." I put dinner on the table, the corn chowder, and start eating. Fiona, still furious, barely tastes it. I roll my eyes and tell her to get her shoes on and go out to the car. "Where's your coat?" I ask her as we head out the back door. (It's January. In Minnesota.) She flies into a fury again. "It's in the back of Dad's car! Which I thought I was going to be getting in again in one minute, but instead he went off without me. Which is why I don't have my coat."

6:45 Leave home with Fiona. Drive toward the high school

7:05 Arrive at the high school and drop Fiona off. I give her the cell phone.

7:15 Arrive for my class, which started at 7:00. Kit up for sparring. It feels really, really good to hit things.

7:40 Sparring class is over. Use the dojo phone to call the cell phone that Fiona now is holding to see if her meeting is over yet. No answer. Apparently, there is no cell phone coverage in the high school. I call Rob, who tells me that Fiona hasn't called there, "but she said she'd come outside Door 3 at 8:00."

7:45 Leave dojo

8:00 Arrive at high school. Wait outside door 3.

8:20. Where the hell is she? I go inside the school and try to find the robotics meeting. The school is huge, and I don't know where the meeting is. I wander all over the school but cannot find her.

8:30 Come back outside again to see if she's emerged yet from door 3. She hasn't.

8:40 I go back inside the school again and in desperation, ask to use the cell phone of someone else in the building. I call the cell phone. No coverage. I call the home. Rob says that Fiona said she'd be meeting in the wood shop. The man who kindly lent me the cell phone tells me that the school doesn't have a wood shop anymore. I barely refrain from tearing my hair out.

8:45 I run down a janitor who directs me to the robotics meeting. Inside I find Fiona. "We'll be done at 9:00," she tells me. With great self-restraint, I refrain from dragging her out of the meeting, tell her that I'll be waiting outside door 3.

9:00 Fiona finally emerges from the meeting and comes out door 3. Drive home. Rob reports that he ate two bowlfuls of the soup "even though it was pretty bland," but Delia barely ate any of the soup, either.

Rob and Fiona are getting cell phones just as soon as I can possibly arrange it. I don't want to go through an evening like this again anytime soon. Garraharhwwraaowaow.
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I had planned to ride my bike to work until at least the end of October. Hey, it was doable, I thought.

Now I'm rethinking.

I've noticed that I really have lost my zest for the ride for the past couple weeks. It's been harder to drag myself out of bed in the mornings, and I have been taking the bike on the train more often. And I've started to actually dread the ride home more. Why would that be when I've enjoyed biking for the most part this past summer?

I realized, upon thinking it over, that the change in going from karate schedules for two people to karate schedules for three was rather a bigger deal that I had thought. Plus, now that school has started, we're going to be adding in confirmation and girl scout meetings. I'm having more days like this one, and while originally the spirit was willing tho' the flesh is weak, lately the spirit has been less and less willing.

Plus, this is a transitional school year for both Fiona and Delia (Fiona to high school and Delia to middle school), and I would like to check in with both of them at the end of the day, go over homework assignments, etc. Delia really has expressed a wish for that, and while Fiona has not, the way she got in over her head on homework last year makes me think that she needs it. I get home a half an hour later when I bike, which gives me no time to go over the school day with them and/or get dinner started before it's time for someone to go to karate.

I'm just tired. I felt a little guilty at first when I thought about ending biking earlier than I first intended, maybe the end of September, but then I thought, hey, cut yourself some slack, lady. You are the only breadwinner in your home right now. You have a damn busy schedule, and some of it, like karate, takes an awful lot of energy. How many other Americans have been willing to drastically change their lifestyle and give up driving their car to work for six months?

*Sigh* Now I just have to find the money to go back to paying gasoline and parking fees. My budget is getting squeezed until it whimpers. This sucks.

I WANT HIM TO FIND A GODDAMN JOB.

Today

Sep. 4th, 2007 10:11 pm
pegkerr: (Default)
6:00 a.m. wake up, wake Delia up
6:05 shower
6:15 makeup
6:25 dress
6:35 pack gym bag
6:45 make lunch
7:00 eat breakfast, read newspaper
7:35 gather purse, gym bag, water for ride
7:40 pack bike
7:45 start biking to work
8:00 get a flat, call Rob
8:05 pull bike off road, examine rear tire, extract glass
8:15 Rob arrives, load bike into Jeep
8:30 Rob drops me off at work
8:35 change into work clothes
8:40 at desk, begin working day. Work was hell today.
12:45 p.m. lunch
1:15 back to work. More hell.
4:30 leave work, walk to bus stop
4:45 get on bus
5:15 get off bus, start walking home. Rob passing in the Jeep (from coming back from the bike shop where he got my bike repaired) sees me and stops to give me a lift
5:20 home
5:25 greet girls, hear about school day, begin reviewing papers sent home from school
5:40 check email
6:00 leave with Fiona for dojo
6:20 arrive at dojo
6:25 begin filling in paperwork sent home from school as I watch Fiona's lesson
6:40 talk with sensei
6:50 leave dojo for dash to grocery store
6:55 arrive at Cub, buy lettuce and beef for dinner
7:10 arrive back at dojo just as Fiona's lesson ends
7:15 start for home
7:25 arrive home
7:45 dinner on the table [Thai Beef Salad, tasty, fast and nutritious)
8:00 leave with Fiona for Target
8:15 arrive at Target. Look for combination lock (yes), compass for geometry (sold out) and Spanish/English dictionary (sold out)
8:30 leave for home
8:45 arrive home. Check e-mail.
9:00 change into painting clothes, assemble paint, roller and brush
9:05 begin second coat of lavender in girls' room (while Rob and the girls watch TV, the LAYABOUTS!!!)
9:55 stop painting, go wash up brushes
10:05 post this entry

Now I shall go upstairs to wash off the paint, do my journal entry for the day, take my medication, and go to bed.

You know, reviewing all this makes me sorta think I don't need to feel guilty about not changing my own flat tire today. It's not as if I didn't have enough to do.

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