And then there are those of us who for various reasons didn't get to have that first child, and at the rate things are going, will never have physical children. And with my health issues, no adoption agency would give me one.

So, as much as you miss the son you never had, rejoice in your wonderful daughters, and in such a great and supportive father for them, such an outstanding lifemate for you.

The slightest turn of the dial, and it could have been very different.

When I weep for Arwen, it's because she makes her choice, and leaves behind everything she has ever known. And she has what she wanted, but for such a brief time... When I weep for me, it's for what might have been, had I chosen differently.