Incidentally, my experience with my children is that I cannot give them competences; they discover them on their own. I took my son to tae kwon do class (having offered him ballet) because his sister took ballet; he never developed the coordination to do jumping jacks, let alone katas, and I let him quit after he'd given it a fair try.

Some years later he is superb at cooking, like his father, and at playing the trumpet, like nobody at all on either side of the family.