One thing that I miss doing is Tai Chi. I took it up in college and have always been attracted to it. (That and Kendo.) For me, the practice isn't about kicking butt or protecting myself. (Though I understand why it is, or at least seems to be in this writing, for you and others.) What I got out of it was that feeling of present-ness. The meditative state of being fully aware of my body in the present moment. It was grounding, calming and stress-relieving. Even now, I'll occasionally pull out a piece of the form or so, sometimes as part of stretching before a physical activity, sometimes just for itself.

I mention this because it might be something that you and/or your girls could enjoy and benefit from that has some portion of the martial arts things you like but doesn't include much sparring. (There's a practice called "push-hands" that is a more advanced study in which one, basically, performs the form "at" another person while they are doing the same. It's not like any other martial art sparring I've seen.)

Apart from that, I think minnehaha has some good points re: verbs and nouns. Another take on that, however, is thinking of the roles you play in your life. You've covered many of them here in these essays. You also have wife, daughter and, I'm sure, a host of other roles. One thing (which I learned from the Franklin Covey people) that has helped me keep events on track is to list off the roles I play and to formulate goals for them for both the short and long term. With those codified, I can then plan activities based on the importance and/or urgency of the goals.