I doubt this helps at all, but if I were inclined to be a parent, I think I'd use you as my role model. I think you handled this really well. You had a moment, and you made her feel okay without sacrificing yourself. I think that's awesome.

Oh, and from what I remember about slumber parties, the kids either won't go to sleep or will get up to raid the kitchen in the middle of the night. We woke my Dad up at my eleventh, and I was terrified. He's not a middle of the night person or a morning person for that matter. But he fixed glasses of milk for everybody, cut cake, and then told us not to tell Mom. I'm sure she had to wonder where the dishes came from the next morning 'cause I *know* he didn't do them.

Beth