My mother still pulls me aside for being too loud when I have people over. That won't get better with age.

And the stuff you do now to balance your own life with theirs will help them more than they realize. For example, I think my Mom gave me too much, she worked very hard and up until the last few years, she would never have spent any money on herself. I think I'm a bit spoiled and selfish because of this. Do I blame her? No, she was trying to de what she thought was best, and I'm glad that she does more for herself more, but if you were to never to things for yourself, have personal time, etc, then how accurate would their view of life be?

I commend you for caring so much.

-M