I have no problem with saying that feelings and how people react to their own feelings are a situation pretty much common to the human condition. I also think it's possible to compare what people think of others' feelings without agreeing with any particular opinion. Alcoholism is generally agreed to be a problem; homosexuality is not universally considered that way. But both stem from emotions. We ought to be able to talk about all these things in terms of basic principles. Of how we humans feel, and what we think of those feelings, and what we do, and where lies the harm, if any.

If it would make it less personal for you, turn it around and argue the position, just for argument's sake, that alcoholism is OK. Then, I hope, you'll see what I mean.