I really love Cambridge meeting, and I would transfer my membership, but that feels like support of FUM to me, so I haven't been able to do it. This year's NEYM had the FUM talk as well--I think officially the main issue right now is the employment requirements (the 'no sex outside of marriage' bit, specifically, which is probably BYM's issue as well.) One of our former house directors is really pushing the NEYM about it, I think--she also is a product of PYM. The bad thing about growing up in PYM is you expect everything to be liberal and hippie-ish, and it's not.
And I know YAF stuff would easier if I would try. It's just--FMW had a really great outreach for new people, and regular YAF events after meeting (planned potlucks, and unplanned, 'lets go get coffee." Cambridge, they forget I've been going there for three years (and okay, I don't attend as often as I should.), and they do NOTHING organized or otherwise after morning meeting, which in my book is the only sensible time for a sunday meeting, and the organized YAF thing runs up against my twice-monthly house meeting. And yes, I could say, "this is what we're going to do after meetings on sundays," and people probably would do it. But the fact is, I don't feel like I know people well enough to do that. And until I get to spend more time with them, I won't know them well enough. Another vicious cycle.