The women I know who belong to Red Hat groups seem to really need it. Like otherwise they wouldn't have had the guts or the imagination to do interesting and independent things, so it's a big deal for them. And I love it that the marketing to Red Hat ladies makes more purple clothing and fabric available to me.

For my 50th - I have a few years to plan, too - I'm considering things like hiring a live rock band for a party, singing and/or playing with said band, enlisting several young men to help me celebrate, and getting a tattoo.