Tyler Clementi and...someone else

[pegkerr]

I've been reading the news about the suicide of Rutgers University freshman student Tyler Clementi, and feeling just sick. For those of you who haven't yet heard, Tyler Clementi's roommate Dharun Ravi thought it would be a fun joke to use a webcam to spy upon Tyler during Tyler's sexual encounter with another man (also a student at Rutgers). Ravi sent out a tweet about it and broadcast the encounter to the world. Another student Molly Wei is in trouble, too, the young woman from whose room Ravi operated the web cam remotely. When he learned of what his roommate had done, Clementi jumped off the George Washington bridge to his death.

Here is the statement made by the President of Rutgers University.

One thing seems to have escaped just about everybody in all the coverage I've been looking at this morning: There was ANOTHER young man involved. Another anonymous (so far) young man, the man that Tyler Clementi liked, who also had his privacy violated. Where is he now? How is HE feeling, knowing that Tyler killed himself after the encounter was broadcast? Is he getting support? Is he feeling suicidal, too?

It's too late for Tyler, but not for him.

God, let him be getting help. Somewhere. Somehow.

Comments

[buttonlass]

I wondered that too elsewhere on FB. Where is that young man? I hope he's not incredibly distressed and alone somewhere.

I was struck at the end of an article on it in the NY Post, I think, by the quote from a young teenager who knew the people who did the recording. She was saying that she knew these people and there was no way they wanted to hurt anybody. Also, that she was sure it was just a practical joke gone wrong. The entire point of practical jokes is that someone is the butt of them, you hurt them some how. Also, did she think it was ok to be taping someone in the privacy of their own space? That alone isn't acceptable. Just that one first step was enough to harm someone and was obviously exactly what the people taping wanted to do. You do not accidentally remotely video tape someone in another room without that being your actual goal. I really dislike what is becoming acceptable to teens. This young man deserved better treatment as a human being of any stripe.

[cynthia1960]

From your keyboard to the God/dess' ears.

[ilyena_sylph]

From your mouth to the Gods' ears.

Please, somebody be helping that boy.