pegkerr | Tell me, please

You're living morally and ethically.

Everything else is in the noise.

B

The thing I admire most about you as a mother is that with Fiona, you're not afraid of making her aware that she is a very attractive young woman and you're not giving out any negative messages about that. My own mother sent out very negative messages about me being a sexually active person and it is such a good thing that you aren't like that.

I also admire your physical activity too, because it shows you want to maintain your body as you get older. I'm younger than you and my legs will never be able to do things like kicks at all. But you still keep going with Karate, even if you find it difficult at times. I admire you for loving Rob even though some of his traits obviously drive you crazy. You demonstrate that you are a thoughtful, loving person not only within your own family, but through your extended family ( siblings, parents ). And you share your life with us. Wow.

You are a wonderful mom who has raised two gorgeous, intelligent and talented girls.

You are taking good care of your family.

You are politically savvy. You make regular posts that I find very interesting even when I don't comment.

You exercise and discipline yourself in regards to your eating habits.

You work at preparing good meals for a family that doesn't always appreciate them.

And you share your enthusiasms with the rest of the world.

Did you happen to see this? (Anonymous compliments meme; your name was mentioned with some very nice things said.)

I do know something of what it takes to be a dedicated athlete as an adult, with committments that bind so much of your time. I *don't* know what it's like to be doing that with the additional all-emcompassing responsibilities of parenthood; I'd be impressed anyway but I'm all the more so for that factor.

You have written things that change people's lives or help them to deal with the problems in their lives - yes, of course I mean your books, but I also mean the things you write in this journal. Look at all the compliments above for the ways in which you've touched people; the majority of those are via your writing *here*.

You have successfully ridden your bike to work for at least two summers, which a lot of people won't or can't do -- which benefits the planet.

You're a valued employee at your workplace.

You keep your family organized and together.

You're steadily progressing in karate, and contribute regularly to it through cleaning.

Late to this but firmly believe that some things cannot be heard often enough.

You are an amazing mother to your daughters, and you share that with us, even when you don't think you're doing such a great job. I love my mother very much even if we do have our differences, and your stories help me understand a little more what it must have been like to parent me. You burst with pride when you tell us about the wonderful things they did and how lovely they're turning out (my mother never did that, Asians don't brag), but you're also re honest about your struggles and frustrations. Like all good writers, by sharing pieces of yourself you help us all to understand ourselves better.

This was not coherent but I'm posting it anyway because I think you need to hear that you are a very valued presence in many lives, including mine. We've never met, but if I ever lost your thoughtfulness and wisdom and humanity from my flist, I'd feel the gap.

You are actively caring for your daughters, even when you are struggling; you make sure they get to karate, you've helped them when they've left forgotten items behind, you've made sure they get to do as many projects as possible within the confines of your budget, including camp, mission trips, crafting, etc. You've taught them how to appreciate high-level entertainment - movies and books that many have no love for even as adults, much less as (pre)adolescents. You've given them love of tradition, of attending May Day fairs and Shakespeare readings and washing your face in the morning dew. You've shared things you love and value and appreciate, so that they know just how to make you happy when they want to give you a treat - like when they've set the table with Nice China and served up dinner or scones. You've taught them to respect themselves, as shown by the fact that Fiona will cheerfully try on do-me boots and looks fit to kill in grown-up dresses but is not, in fact, actually engaged in any hair-raising activity. All the good things they do reflect the good things you do, because they've learned it from you.

I have not had a chance to read your RPG, but if you are doing anywhere NEAR as well as you did with SU and NA, you are clearly doing something right there, too, being part of a vibrant team, and giving life and breath to the characters you take on.

You are doing right by your health and the environment by biking to work when possible, and going for your daily walks.

You do your best to balance frugality with occasional treats.

You and Rob love each other and share that with your daughters. That goes a long way, all by itself.

You inspire me every day, with your strength, your faith, your new ideas and your wisdom, the links you find to share, your creativity (those SoulCollage cards, for instance), the experiences you've had in life and in parenting and the gorgeous way you have of writing, even LJ entries. My life is far richer for having you in it, even in electronic form, and it is my sincerest wish to someday meet you in person. I don't say that for many people, so please consider that, too, a comment on all the things you do that are right. Oh, and yes, you did write some pretty awesome books. :D

I'd go on, but I'm sure I'd just be echoing what others have already said. Hope we were able to help a little.

That last week I unexpectedly found a close, free (city-owned) place to exercise indoors, I'm going to have a go at doing it enough to improve my fitness level.

You are an inspiration.

You stick with martial arts even when it's hard.

You're a great mother, you have your priorities straight, and you lead a pretty well-balanced life, what with your physical, spiritual, and mental work.

Your writing communicates courage, thoughtfulness, and compassion. Kind thoughts from me.

You are raising two strong, smart young women. That's a major accomplishment in itself. I'm always cheered and heartened by how well you deal with them.
You're taking martial arts - with your daughters - and realizing that you're making progress. And realizing limits, which is even harder. I'm on the sidelines cheering.
You've found creative ways to ensure that the three of you can take martial arts, even during difficult times. That creativity - and not just in writing - is a real asset.
You're a good problem solver.
You have enthusiasm for so many things - including Harry Potter, and the new musical groups coming up around the entire series.
You bicycle to work.
You're willing to take chances.
You set good boundaries, and your girls are learning how to do that by example.

I haven't read the other comments, so I may be repeating.

You update frequently and with meaningful content. It's good content, too. You think about things and then post them and pass on the thinking-about-them.

like any working mother you are the consummate juggler and still find time to take care of you and create.

Never stop creating. Life is not about finding yourself, it's about creating yourself. You've created a pretty dynamite you.

/cheer

You are raising two daughters to be strong, caring, generous, beautiful human beings who care about this planet and the people on it.

You are contentiously taking care of your physical body through exercise and good healthy food. (eg: karate, cycling, walking, and your lunch boxes which frankly have inspired some of my own lunches)

You exercise your creativity in many different ways (eg: this blog, the Harry Potter group, your soulcards).

You value and promote the well-being of your family, if it is less than convenient for yourself (eg: cleaning the dojo for karate lessons).

Would it be too cheesy to end with a quote from the Desiderata? The line about trees made me think of you:
"You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here."

that the true heroes of this world are not the flashy super-gender types, or the bravest warriors, or even the punchiest starlets. Perhaps, the real heroes of this world (the one we all agree is real), the ones we admire, and remember, and think on in the bad times, these heroes are the people who ... awake every day and feed their children ...
climb out of their dreams and trudge off to duty ...
stand in the rain and sunshine and boring busstops everyday to earn the treasure that will school the nextgen, will house the progeny of a few sweet moments ...
And you are doing that, and inspiring, too, the watchers of your l-journal.
Are you desperate to hear that you are the hero of your babies stories, and that just breathing in is not enough, that today everyone wishes to gift and stroke and build your egolife?
Oh, Darlin, without your kind this would be a drab and uncreative world.
Keep breathin' in girl, this could get to be weighty and grey someday again, but right now we're cheerin' to read your lovely thoughts tomorrow.

longshiren, yer friend in some alternate world.

Peg, you pay careful and concerned attention to your family and the effort and emotion comes though here.

*hug*

Joyce

In the face of all that you've experienced this past year, you've persevered.

You also bring to mind Gandalf's quote when I read your entries. What was it he said? Something like: "All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given us."

You inspire, Peg. Despite the many ways life has conspired, you have chosen to use your powers for good.

Kim

You're super fun to RP with and you make great icons. You've gone out of your way to welcome me since I joined a certain game.

You're raising two fine, intelligent, caring daughters. That requires doing a lot of right.

You're holding your life together reasonably well in trying circumstances.

You're trying to do your best even when things are difficult.

You think about what is going wrong and ask what you can do to make it better rather than just complaining about it.

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You're good role model

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From a lurker/new reader of your LJ

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hmmm, suppose,

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Inspiring Warrior Woman

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