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pegkerr ([personal profile] pegkerr) wrote2019-07-05 10:04 pm

Convergence. And my anniversary. Without Rob

It is my 33rd anniversary today, but I have been a widow for over a year. I have been going to Convergence today, but it hasn't worked as well as last year at keeping me distracted.

Maybe it's because it's a different hotel, so there isn't the comfort of familiarity.

Maybe because I don't have my girls with me.

Maybe it's because I am not staying at the hotel itself so I don't have opportunities to slip away and rest in a room and decompress.

Maybe because I'm lonely, and I know fewer people here.

I managed to go to some panels and enjoy discussions, but other times I was walking around muttering to myself you should be with me; how come you're not here; I can't believe you're dead. How can you be dead?.

Did not stay for the late panels. Came home to be miserable by myself.

This sucks. Rob, you should be here with me. You should be here. Holding your ashes on my lap is not good enough.

[personal profile] ndrosen 2019-07-06 06:15 am (UTC)(link)
I’m sorry that your husband’s absence is gnawing at you. May you be comforted among the mourners of the world, as a Jewish friend of mine puts it.
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[personal profile] kiwiria 2019-07-06 08:56 am (UTC)(link)
I'm so sorry you have to go through this :(
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[personal profile] pameladean 2019-07-06 05:23 pm (UTC)(link)
It's such a long process with so very many reverses. I'm sorry CONvergence was hard this year.
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[personal profile] minnehaha 2019-07-06 10:09 pm (UTC)(link)
Foreign conventions are always hit-or-miss. This one is in the foreign lonely land of widowhood. I am sorry he is not there.

K.
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[personal profile] castiron 2019-07-06 11:33 pm (UTC)(link)
I'm very sorry. It's not fair.

[personal profile] davidschroth 2019-07-07 01:10 am (UTC)(link)
I'm so sorry you're having such a difficult time.
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[personal profile] maribou 2019-07-07 04:04 am (UTC)(link)
I'm sorry. It sucks. He should be with you.
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[personal profile] aome 2019-07-08 03:21 am (UTC)(link)
♥ ♥

Just sending lots of love to you.