Wuh . . .

[pegkerr]

Last night was the 20th anniversary celebration for the law firm; they had a little wine and hor d'oeuvres reception at the MacPhail Center after work. I had a glass and a half of wine, and after the two glasses I had last night, I felt as if I were pole-axed. I managed to get home (took the bike on the light rail instead of biking all the way; I'm not an idiot) and went to bed at 6:00 p.m. Woke up for about twenty minutes and talked to Rob at 9:20 p.m., and then went back to bed for the night. Egad, I really needed it. I had planned to clean the place up since my mother-in-law is coming over today, but I slept instead. Mel, I'm sorry and really embarrassed about it, but you already knew that I can't keep the house clean.

I'll do a post later today on magical thinking, but right now I have to get to work.

Comments

[cakmpls.livejournal.com]

Peg, that penultimate sentence should be "you already knew that we can't keep the house clean." You don't live there alone, and you aren't solely responsible.

[cakmpls.livejournal.com]

P.S. We can't, either.

[pegkerr.livejournal.com]

Good point.

That's quite revealing; I guess the attitude of the family has rubbed off on me. Delia does help, and she does try. She will voluntarily clean without being asked, and I'm immensely grateful for that.

But Rob and Fiona, I think, would never ever ever lift a finger anywhere in the house unless I chivy or nag them to do so. Their attitude is that the state of the house doesn't have anything to do with them and is not their responsibility. Ironic, since they do more to mess it up than Delia and I, who try to clean as we go.

[pegkerr.livejournal.com]

Thanks for that.

Sometimes, when I look around my house in despair, I find myself thinking, "Other people don't have to live like this." Yet, I know that's not true. A lot of people have trouble keeping their environment picked up.

But being married to someone with OCD who resists throwing anything away makes it really hard.

[cakmpls.livejournal.com]

I know.

R does the most work of all the kids (even though the other three are adults), but she also makes, by far, the most mess, and always has. P has always been the most reliable about doing chores he was assigned (when younger) or has agreed to do (when older), even though he has significant physical disability that makes it more work for him to do things.

J simply doesn't see the mess for the most part, and has a couple of messy habits that bug me a lot. But I'm sure that if the mess bothered him, it would be true that I have some messy habits that would bug him, too. (My problem is too many interests--which means "stuff" for them--and too little liking for housework.)

Our big house means that when we are having folks over (like for Minn-Stf) we can get the first floor, and maybe the TV room and bathroom on the second, pretty neat, because there's always somewhere to stash stuff! But I am in awe, in awe I tell you, of people who offer to take me on a tour of their house, in which they show me every room.

[redbird]

It may even be "Mel, you already knew that your OCD son can't keep the house clean, and makes it difficult for his family to do so." She's his mother: she knows what he's like, or should.