pegkerr: (Deep roots are not reached by the frost)
This month I will be celebrating a very particular birthday. With my new health insurance, I am now eligible for a program that enables me to go back to the YWCA.

I am absolutely overjoyed about this. I had to give up my Y membership when my job was cut in half with the pandemic, five years ago, and I've missed it dreadfully. I dug my Y membership card out of a drawer (I even had an old towel card that still had some punches left on it) and presented myself at the Y membership desk with my new Silver Sneakers number and was duly reinstated.

Now I regularly use the treadmill, rowing machine, weight machines, and especially—oh joy—the sauna. I am sore, because I have not been diligent as I should about using weights, but I am determined to do so now.

This is definitely one perk that has come with growing older.

Background: a sauna. Underneath the sauna light are the words "Eliminating racism, empowering women, YWCA. In front of the sauna bench is a rowing machine. Hand weights rest on the sauna bench. Lower center: A silver sneaker.

Silver Sneakers

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pegkerr: (Alas for the folly of these days)
I went to the Hands Off protest on April 5. The one I attended was a smaller one across the river in St. Paul, but not the one at the capitol--that one drew about 25,000 people, I understand. I chose to go to a closer one, where I hoped it would be easier to park, and that indeed turned out to be true. [personal profile] naomikritzer was there, too.

The weather was cold and breezy (I'll know next time not to big a big flimsy card for a placard, because the wind kept trying to take it away like a sail). But the sky was a brilliant blue (I used it at the background for this collage).

There were several hundred people there, and I saw no counter-protestors. Many cars honked in support as they drove by (although one yelled out the window, "Get a job!" and I thought to myself Dude. It's a Saturday.). We all interspersed our chants with friendly chatting. We all found comfort in our solidarity of purpose and trading of experience. What can we do?

I made the deliberate choice, which I never have before, to blur the faces in the collage other than my own. What a strange world we are entering, where that feels necessary.

The headline in today's newspaper read, "Students With Visas Live in Fear," and I thought about the quartet of Norman Rockwell paintings "The Four Freedoms," especially the one entitled "Freedom from Fear." How have we come to this point, where we are losing these basic freedoms?

Image description: against a brilliantly blue sky background, various people hold protest signs.

Hands Off

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I like coffee. No, I love it.

I was thinking this week that not only do I drink it every day, but it is also a common element in almost all of my most important social interactions. I get together regularly to walk with a couple of friends each week, and we always follow our walk by buying coffee together (lately, I've been adding a half shot of lavender syrup to mine). I get together regularly with my mom and sisters for coffee and scones. Every Friday, I get together remotely with several writing friends--we originally met in a coffee shop until the pandemic. Eric and I usually meet on Saturday mornings at my house for coffee and pastries. (He uses the Brontë mug and I use the Jane Austen mug). I have taught him all about the delight of adding molasses to enrich the flavor.

I didn't drink coffee until I was in my thirties, but teaching writing composition at the University to hungover freshman at 8:00 am made it eventually seem necessary.

Oddly enough, neither Delia nor Fiona ever developed a taste for it. I would love to go out for coffee with them, but we have to console ourselves with brunch instead.

Against a semi-transparent background of coffee beans, a smiling woman (Peg) holds a cup of coffee. Bottom: two coffee mugs (Jane Austen mug and Brontë mug), with a sprig of lavender. Lower left: a jar of molasses. Upper left corner: a latte with latte art in the foam and a scone with jam and clotted cream.

Coffee

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pegkerr: (All that I have done today has gone amis)
This collage holds the record for being the one most difficult to put together of all the collages I have done over the past five years.

I struggled with coming up with an idea in the first place (another boring week) and then struggled to put any ideas into images. This is the fifth draft. This is EXTREMELY unusual. I’d say 95% of the time I do one draft, and 5% I do two. I usually finish a collage within 1-2 hours. I worked on coming up with a concept for this one and putting the concept into images for six and a half hours. Gah.

Finally, in a temper, I decided to make a collage about my failure in coming up with ideas.

Sleep has been not great lately. The writing on the book has slowed to almost nothing.

I am exhausted and don't have anything in me to explain the image further. Deal with it.

Ironically, this fifth draft took only twenty minutes. Go figure.

Image description: background: a desert. Upper center: a flat tire. Center: Peg's face, overlaid with a dead tree. Bottom center: a dry well

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This has been one of those weeks where it has been a bit difficult to pin down exactly what the week has been about. What has been top of mind? I didn't have anything particularly extraordinary happen. (For St. Patrick's day, I made mashed potatoes laced with corned beef and cheese. Whatever).

I realized that I have been fighting a slight strain of melancholy and I put it down to the fact that I have been pushing forward with the decluttering/Swedish Death Cleaning. I am continuing to go through Rob's stuff (OMG, after eight seven years, aren't I done YET? But no, I am STILL pulling legal files out of the garage).

Going through Rob's stuff will never stop being painful. I am confronted by memories with every box I open, every piece of paper I reread. God, oh how I wish he had not stuck me with this burden. It feels like being trapped in the past. My sense of time gets hosed up when I am doing these tasks. I am about to turn 65. I am on the brink of retirement, and could conceivably figure that I am 2/3 through this life or more. Yet each box lands me firmly back in the past. And that is both intoxicating and so very painful.

Going through his things, thinking about the house, continually rubs my nose in the fact that this house used to be for a family. I lived with other people I loved. I ate meals together with them. I celebrated holidays with them. But now I live alone and it feels so wrong. When I get together with my siblings (whom I dearly love), I enjoy spending time with them, don't get me wrong. But they are all married, and I feel that difference in our situations so keenly. They are all with the partners with whom they have spent years, with whom they had children. And the ghost of Rob beside me is like a phantom limb, aching with pain.

Yes, I am keeping company with Eric, and yes, I love him and we are committed to each other. But there are very good reasons why we are not living together, why we will probably never have the deep history together that my siblings have with their spouses--someone with whom they have lived with for decades, someone with whom they have had children. The history I had with Rob.

I don't want to spend the rest of my life with my neck cranked over my shoulder, looking back longingly at the past. I feel so acutely the empty parts of my life here in the present.

I want to look forward toward the future. And yet I recognize that my future is an increasingly smaller and smaller portion of my life. Yes, I do know that there are things I can still anticipate with pleasure. I am, after all, welcoming my first grandchild this June.

But when I am going through Rob's boxes, the collision of past, present, and future is uncomfortable and painful.

God, being a widow just sucks.

Image description: A view of a range of mountains. Lower center: a bright spot at the confluence where one slopes down as the other slopes up. The downslope is labeled 'Past,' the slope behind the bright spot is 'Present' and the upslope leading away is 'Future.' An arrow points to the bright spot with the text 'You are here.'


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I made an embarrassing mistake at the office this past week. A visitor came in, and I greeted her as I happen to sit right at the front desk.

I knew her. I knew that I knew her. "Hello, Babette!" I said brightly, delighted to see her.

The moment her face froze, I realized (too late) I had mis-identified her. I knew her well; I had worked with her for five years as a member of the candidacy committee. But she wasn't Babette. She was Angela.

This isn't the first time this has happened to me, but it never gets any less mortifying. I thought quite a bit about the incident this week, and that brought to mind several other embarrassing episodes.

I realized, for the first time, that I have never mentioned this periodic difficulty I have to anyone before. Certainly not my family, nor to anyone at my workplace. It is embarrassing. But it's not due to any impoliteness or carelessness on my part. Why not just admit it?

And so I started doing so this week, to tell people, "Hey, did you know that I have occasional trouble with face blindness?"

It's not age-related. It's a problem that I first noticed at the age of twenty or so. It doesn't happen too often, and it doesn't happen with everyone. But I sometimes have difficulty identifying the face of someone I know, and it can even be people that I know very well indeed. I work with a committee of about fifteen people at work. And there are two pairs of men on that committee that I continually confuse, even after working with them for years.

The strangest instance is within my own family. I have seven nephews who live locally. Three of them I have no difficulty distinguishing. But there are four of them--Stephen, Lewis, Stuart, and Mitchell--who I sometimes have difficulty telling apart. It's quite strange to be at a family gathering, speaking to a young man I like, who I've known for thirty years--and it isn't until 10 or 15 minutes into the conversation that I'm confident that I know exactly which nephew I'm speaking with.

When you think about it, it's really quite bizarre. Sometimes brains are just weird and fail in strange ways.

A circle of glittering masks with blank eyeholes surround and stare at a center face-shape. Inside the face-shape, a hat rests on clouds with a collar below, but no face can be seen.

Face Blindness

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I noticed that my backup drive was continually failing to back up. After monkeying around with it for awhile, I took the drive and laptop into Best Buy, where they diagnosed the problem: I had waaaaaaaaay too many files on my computer.

Oh.

So I started culling files and music off the computer. It was both unnerving and satisfying, but I managed to kill several gigabytes worth of data, which meant I got the automatic backups going again.

Inspired by this, I attacked several other sources of clutter. I emptied several more boxes of legal files left in the garage by Rob (no, I'm still not done going through them). I took a box of hardback mysteries to Half-Price Books (only got $5.00 for them, but at least thirty more books are out of the house). I culled through my closet and took some bags of clothes to a thrift store (I took particular grim satisfaction in stuffing a sweater Kij had given me into the garbage bag. Why had I kept it so long? I have no idea).

I still have much too much stuff. But this week, at least, I beat it back. At least a little.

The design shows some of the things I cleared out this week. I overlaid those images with a scythe, both to indicate cutting things out of my life and as a veiled reference to the concept of Swedish Death Cleaning.

Lower center: A half-open laptop. Directly above: hanging files. Above that: stacks of books. Above that, stacks of clothes on shelves. Overlaid over all: a scythe.

Decluttering

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pegkerr: (Loving books)
When thinking about the past week, I had difficulty settling upon an idea for a collage. Why did the week seem like such a blur, such a blank?

Upon thinking it over, I realized that this was because I spent much of the week mentally checked out. I checked my Goodreads page and realized that I read ten books in the past week. When I wasn't reading on my tablet, I was listening to audiobooks.

I had much of the week off from work, but the weather was extremely cold and dreary. I spent much of the week huddled on my couch, diving into escapist fiction. It's partly the effect of the dreadful political news and the mental sink that comes with the second half of winter, too--I just wanted to...not be there.

*Sigh* I know that I can't do this all the time. But this week, I just couldn't resist flying into the mental escape.

Background: semi-transparent wall of books. Lower foreground: a woman reads on a tablet reader. Center: a pair of headphones wrapped around five standing books. Upper center: an open book with two pages folded into the shape of a heart. A couple dressed in Regency dress stands silhouetted in front, their heads framed by the heart shape of the pages.

Escapism

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I have been thinking about defiance over the past week.

A half mile from my house, a homeowner has put four-foot high standing letters in their front yard that light up at night. The letters spell out "RESIST." I see them every day as I drive by.

A friend sent me a link about a non-profit, Unidos MN, that was holding Legal Witness Training at a church in Minneapolis. The organizers originally expected an attendance of about 150 people. So many people registered, however, that they ended up moving it from Holy Trinity to Central Lutheran.

Fifteen hundred people showed up.

I was one of them. The purpose of the training was to recruit volunteers to agree to receive text alerts when word came from the dispatchers that ICE was doing a raid to arrest immigrants. People go out to serve as legal witnesses, to hold police responsible and to share rights information with those being arrested, and to be there as moral witnesses, to let immigrants know that they are not standing alone.

The presentation seemed well thought out. The organizers stressed that the intention is not to provoke confrontations, but, they admitted, sometimes these things can go badly. Most raids occur between 4 am and 8 am. They advise letting someone know when you are about to go out to witness a raid, just in case. Make sure your phone is passcode locked, and not openable with biometrics (I privately thought it might be better to carry a burner phone).

It all sounds daunting. But the reality of what is going on in this country is daunting. Can I stand by and do nothing? What SHOULD I be doing?

The whole experience led to a lot of thinking about what we are facing, about fascism and the duty to resist. I kept thinking how familiar it all seemed and poked at that thought until I found the connection.

You see, I spent seven years writing daily with a dozen other writers in an online collaborative story about people living in a fascist regime and taking it down in the end. I'm talking about Alternity. I wrote stories about people who resisted covertly and others who resisted openly. I wrote about people who worked within a cruel bureaucracy, trying to save as many as possible. I wrote about people who bought into the regime because of the power it gave them, addicted to the thrill of being able to force others to do what they wanted. I wrote about people who left their lives behind to fight openly, and how some won, and some sacrificed everything.

Writing Alternity was the best preparation I could have imagined for living in these times. We wrote about the insidious nature of propaganda, and groupthink, and about being betrayed by family and friends and the despair of watching people you love willingly swallowing poison and turning against you. We wrote about the little accommodations to evil that are so easy to make and the terrible things that those little compromises can slowly lead you to do. We wrote about the erosion of morality and the building of courage. We wrote about what happens to people when everything is falling apart all around them.

I look around today and almost marvel: we're living it. We are in the beginning stages of Alternity. When we wrote the story, we assumed that of course it will never happen here. But now we see fascism on the rise, and what are we going to do about it?

What am I going to do about it?

I remember reading Corrie Ten Boom's autobiography when I was a kid. I thought about the movie I saw about Sophie Scholl and the White Rose. Absorbing those stories led to a kind of moral exercise, a thought experiment examining the question, "What would I do in that situation?" Of course, you think that you will be brave. You will stand up to the powers that be to protect the oppressed innocent; of course you will.

Yet, my finger hovered for an inordinately long time over the sign-up button below the question on the app: "Are you willing to volunteer to be a legal witness?" I felt sick. I felt afraid. It is still difficult to believe that this is actually happening. And yet I know, from writing Alternity, that fascism builds its momentum by convincing people that its power is overwhelming. You must stand up from the very beginning to say, "No."

I have come to deplore JK Rowling and all the hatred she represents. And yet I found myself thinking: "Am I a Gryffindor or not, dammit?"

In the end, I haven't yet committed to being a legal witness, but I will be attending the next training to learn more. I may yet sign up, or I may find another role, another way to assist. In the meantime, I've used my position at my job to pass much of this information along to church leaders to let them know about this initiative.

I learned this week that courage can seem easy when all you're doing is dreaming about what-ifs. It is a lot more difficult when you are facing the necessity of being brave in real life. And it is going to get much more challenging. We are just at the beginning.

Worse is yet to come. So the defiance has to start now.

About the design: one of the things I picked up in my reading this week was the historical tidbit about why red lipstick was so popular in World War II. Apparently, the word filtered out from Germany that Hitler hated women wearing makeup. When women were invited to join his entourage on his retreats, there was a strict dress code that they couldn't wear makeup, particularly red lipstick.

So American women started adopting red lipstick as a marker of resistance to fascism.

The starfish is included because of that old story about the man who walks along a beach, throwing starfish back into the water after a storm. When asked why he bothers, that his actions are useless because there are so many starfish littering the beach, the man picks up another starfish, throws it in, and says, "I made a difference to that one."

The ouroboros (the snake in a figure 8 devouring its tail) is included in the design because it was Voldemort's symbol of the regime in Alternity.

Central images: Men in black jackets with "Police ICE" on the back converge on a front door decorated with a Christmas wreath. Lower center, semi-transparent: an ouroboros (a snake curled in a figure-8, swallowing its own tail). Bottom center, over the ouroboros: an open white rose. Behind the ouroborus, lower left corner, a hand tosses a red starfish (center). Lower right corner: tips of a woman's fingers apply fire engine red lipstick to a pair of lips (directly over the starfish).

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I have been preoccupied with heat this week.

My house has an old gravity-fed octopus furnace, original to the house. According to my furnace inspector, only 3-5% of houses still have this type of heating. They are very dependable, but on the other hand, they are inefficient compared to modern furnaces. If I want to keep my heat bill from being too exorbitant, I have to keep the thermostat down low.

So I turn it down to 58 when I sleep at night, and when I leave the house for an extended period of time. On the days that I work, I don't turn it up in the morning for the hour and a half I'm getting ready. I turn it up to 65 only when I'm hanging around my house in the evenings.

Frankly, this has felt like I've been pushing the envelope of my own comfort. I use an electric blanket at night, but (being an aging lady) I have to get up numerous times to go to the bathroom. And stepping out of the shower in the morning when the temperature is set at 58 degrees honestly sucks.

So I have been huddling up with blankets, shawls, and a rice heat pack that I warm up in the microwave. I recently bought a warm flannel shirt that is so cozy that I want to wear it all the time. I have been stocking my refrigerator with soups to warm up for my meals and drinking cocoa and tea in the evenings, trying to warm my hands and my belly.

I keep blowing the fuse when I forget to turn off the space heater when I try to run the microwave.

Escaping to the office had been a relief, but this week, a pipe burst in the floor below us. A hot water boiler provides our building heat. For a day or two the heat was so low at the office that I had to pull my shawls out there, too. Until they get the pipe fixed next week, they have brought in space heaters--but the space heaters are blowing the fuses all over the place at the office, too.

Perhaps because I'm getting older. I'm just feeling the cold more. It's all about striking a balance between personal comfort and my budget. Lately, the balance has been a struggle to achieve.

Central image: An octopus (gravity-fed) furnace. Right: a red lumberman's shirt. Lower right corner: a small space heater. Lower left corner: a woman's hands hold a bowl of wild rice bean soup. Left: a heat pack, the type warmed in the microwave. Upper center: a thermostat.

Heat

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I've been doing these collages for several years, and somehow I've focused on the same subject during this week each year. January 26 is the anniversary of Rob's death in 2018.

This year, I really wanted to do a different subject. I mean, the grief is still there (and will always be there) but I can talk about other things, I promise.

And this week, I definitely have something different to speak of, something that makes me very happy! And yet, oddly enough, it has prodded my grief a bit, so I will end up speaking about Rob after all.

Alona and Fiona have given me permission to share some news publicly that I have been sitting on for several months: They are expecting a baby, who will be born in June. (Alona is the person who is carrying the baby.) They have done genetic testing, and the baby is just fine and entirely healthy. (Alona, alas, has been having a difficult time with nausea and other unpleasant symptoms, and we would appreciate it if that settled down. Thank you.)

I am delighted with this news. But of course, there is that underlying twinge of sadness for Rob, again, that he will never see or hold his grandchildren. He would have loved the experience, just as I will.

That's the thing about grief and widowhood: the losses keep playing out, even years later.

This collage includes a picture of him holding Fiona on the day that she was born. Here is another one:

Fiona and Rob

Image description: An ultrasound of a fetus. Lower left corner: a man (Rob) looks down with an expression of wonder at a bundled baby in his lap. Lower right: a hand cups a pair of infant feet

Baby

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pegkerr: (A light in dark places LOTR)
This is not a happy, fluffy collage this week. You have been warned.

I did not watch the inauguration and I haven't read much news. But I have picked up bits and pieces on social media about the flurry of activity/executive orders that the returning President has launched since resuming office.

Look. I freely admit that I have a side picked in this fight, and I'm not going to apologize for it. This week's collage, I trust, makes my point of view clear. Don't bother telling me, as Rob did on election night the first time he was elected, that it won't be that bad and that I'm overreacting.

They also told us that Roe v. Wade would never be overturned, and look what happened.

Nor do I find it easy to be sanguine about this. I just cannot. I have two daughters of reproductive age, one of whom is gay. I have trans friends. I believe strongly in racial reconciliation, environmental protection, strong public health, equal rights for women, assistance to the needy, fiscal responsibility, ethical government, and welcoming immigrants--all things that I think it is safe to say this administration opposes.

From what I can tell from his initial orders this first week, the current head of the executive branch wants people to be afraid. The flurry of executive orders that have emerged from the White House are DESIGNED to enrage and terrify people like me. It is a known propaganda policy of fascist governments: overwhelm with shock and awe so there is no resistance to the strong arm of the state. So how does one respond?

I thought about the sign over the gates of Hell in Dante's Inferno: "Abandon Hope All Ye Who Enter Here." That, of course, is exactly what Trump wants: for people like me to feel hopeless and helpless and afraid.

Yet, even knowing how grim the next four years will be, I need to resist that demand for hopelessness, both for my own sanity and as an ethical stance. I saw a portion of the sermon that the Right Rev. Bishop Mariann Edgar Budde preached in the National Cathedral to Trump and his cronies, appealing to him to show mercy to those who were afraid. She worried in advance whether she should do it—did she really dare? But in the end, she stood up and told truth to power.

Trump, of course, rejected this appeal and has demanded that the bishop apologize for preaching the gospel. I have read that since preaching her sermon, she has enduring scolding from Trump's fans, and even death threats. But she said that even expecting a backlash (although it turned out to be much worse that she expected) she decided that she absolutely had to speak up. And she has been heartened by everyone who thanked her for doing so.

What can be gained if people freeze in fear, and refuse to act or speak up?

And so I created a collage of a woman facing the gates of hell, with the ominous inscription over the portal, but she carries a lantern as she prepares to enter.

She will do all she can to keep that lantern from going out.

(As I said, I do admit my bias. Compare my Inauguration collage from four years ago.)

Image description: A gloomy view of a stone path leading to an arched doorway. Above the doorway a carved stone lintel reads 'Abandon all hope ye who enter here.' Through the dim doorway can be seen dark hell fires and vague shapes of people in torment. Standing before the doorway is the silhouette of a woman holding a lantern in her hand. The lantern emits a faint yellow glow.

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I attended an ordination last weekend, and the pastor explained during the announcement portion of the services that out in the narthex, there was a table containing bags with sticks of chalk and a piece of paper explaining the tradition of doing a house blessing at Epiphany. We were all encouraged to take them home. I was intrigued, as I had never heard of this custom before, and I took home the bag with the chalk and read the paper.

It said:
For centuries, Christians have celebrated the season of Epiphany by chalking their outside front door with a blessing. You are invited to try it at your home.

The Traditional Chalk Blessing:

20 † C † M † B † 25


Surrounding the blessing is the date of the new year (2025). The crosses between the letters symbolize Christ.

CMB has two meanings. It signifies the traditional names of the three magi who visited Jesus (Caspar, Melchior, and Balthazar), and it stands for the Latin phrase "Christus mansionem benedictat," meaning "May Christ bless this house."
Reading about this tradition got me thinking about my house.

Rob and I moved into this house in December 1992. I realized, counting back, that I am almost at the exact point where I have lived half my life in this house.

I thought of a song I've loved for years by one of my favorite artists, Peter Mayer, "Houses of Winter," which imagines homes as almost sentient entities, watching over the people in their keeping. The Houses of Winter )



When we moved into this house, I was seven months pregnant with Fiona (convenient, because I wasn't expected to lift anything heavier than a waste basket on moving day). I brought my babies home to this house and raised them here. Rob and I loved each other here, and it was my anchor when he died.

This home has sheltered a family. Now it is just me.

I have often wished I come up with a proper name for the house, as some of my friends have for their own homes, but nothing ever quite seemed to fit. Yet it has a personality. It was built in 1916 and has beautiful bones, but it is whimsical and sometimes temperamental, too. The furnace in the basement is original to the house, an octopus monstrosity that crouches in the darkness, tentacles reaching in all directions, hemmed in by asbestos, greedy as hell for natural gas, yet as reliable as could be desired. The electrical system is barely adequate. The floors slope toward the midline, the tile floor in the bathroom is cold, and the light switch in the bedroom says 'NO' instead of 'ON' because it was installed upside down. The less said about the paneling installed in the hallway and two of the bedrooms, the better.

The house regularly demands tribute in expensive repairs: a new roof. Drain tile in the basement. Regular repainting. The walls are threaded through with cracks in the plaster.

I have tried to make my home more my own as I have been slowly cleaning out Rob's stuff. I have never had a pet while living here (allergies make it impossible). It is just me. And the house.

I've eaten tomatoes and Swiss chard grown in the backyard and cooked thousands of meals in the kitchen. I've probably cried in just about every room in the house. The walls have soaked up so much laughter, the yells from so many fights, the joy of so many celebrations (perhaps that's why they are cracking so much).

It feels almost like...like it's the two of us now, the house and me. It is almost anthropomorphic, in other words, as in the Peter Mayer song. This house has watched over and sheltered my family, been my comfort and haven in times of struggle and grief. Now it watches over me. It seems more personal. Just as it has been a blessing to me, it seems only fitting to bless and thank the house in return.

Background: a dark wooden front door, overlaid at the top with a stitched sampler reading 'Bless This House." The top of the door has an inscription in white letters "20 † C † B † M † 25." Lower center: a mesh bag containing a piece of chalk hovers over three porcelain figurines of the three wise men. A pair of hands reaches up from the bottom, cupping the sampler in blessing.

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I have done New Year's resolutions in the past, but not every year. I am less likely to do them, being largely satisfied with my life, although I having been working to up my healthy habits, just without a formal resolution.

But I did read an idea that I liked and I have put it into practice. I have set up a jar on my kitchen counter, and every day I write on a slip of paper and drop it into the jar.

It isn't a gratitude jar. As someone with a history of long history of depression (although, thankfully, I am not troubled with it now and haven't been for some years), I am wary of the customary advice to keep track of one's gratitudes. For someone with depression, this well-meaning tool can be turned into a cudgel if one is not careful: "What do you have to be depressed about? Don't you realize that you have a house and food to eat and a loving family?" [Depressed people can almost hear the unspoken thought hanging in the air, 'How dare you be so ungrateful?']

Instead of writing about gratitudes, I am writing something each day that I have noticed that may be as simple as 'I saw the light glinting along the edge of the leaves and it glimmered in an astonishing way.' Simple things. Lovely things. Things that made me happy.

The idea is take take the jar apart on New Year's Eve next December and read them all and revisit the small moments that have made up a year, that might be forgotten.

It is the season of Epiphany. In the church year, it celebrates the time that the magi came to give gifts to the Christ child. The dictionary describes 'epiphany' as: (1) a usually sudden manifestation or perception of the essential nature or meaning of something. (2) an intuitive grasp of reality through something (such as an event) usually simple and striking.

My church, for the third year in a row, handed out what are called 'star words' on Epiphany. It is a word we are meant to reflect upon in the coming year. Mine was 'listen.' I have been thinking it is a good word with which to arm myself as we enter this new dreaded political season, under the sway of someone (frankly) that I loathe and distrust.

I will try to keep my balance and enter this new year with a willingness to listen in a spirit of curiosity rather than fear. We'll see if this helps.

Image description: Background: a field of stars over a silhouetted mountain range cast in darkness. Bottom center: a mason jar tied with a gold ribbon. Small slips of paper are clustered in the bottom of the jar. Center: the word 'Listen.'

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New year, new 52 Card Project. As I did last year, I'm doing it as an entirely digital series, since I'm using transparency effects in so many cards.

I will post the cards as I do them each week in a table here. Clicking on the link in the title for each card will take you to the post about the individual card.

This is what the 2025 52 Card Project looks like so far )


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