It's been a month

[pegkerr]

It's been a month, and grief is still absolutely kicking my ass. The girls are struggling, too.

I'm still wearing black. Well, I put on a gray jacket today, and that feels almost...frivolous.

My email box is overflowing. If I haven't replied, know that I have over 700 unopened emails.

This is so goddamned hard.

Comments

[aome]

I was thinking about the 26th coming up the last few days, and thinking of you. Give yourself time - life-changing grief like this is a marathon, not a sprint. And the first year - all the "firsts" - without Rob will be doubly hard. See if there are other widows you can talk to, for support. I know talking to other bereaved parents helped my mom immeasurably, people who knew exactly what she was going through, but were further along in the process and could provide some support and perspective.

You don't need to reply. Just know that I'm here for you, whatever you need. <3 Thanks for checking in.

[redbird]

Wear what feels right.

There are no deadlines on this.

[tassie_gal]

Its hard. It always will be some sort of hard, but it gets to be an easier hard if that makes sense?
I know my Mum when she lost Dad 8 years ago said the best bit of advice she ever got was as soon as you feel you can, clear out the wardrobe. Its HARD but it helps for some reason.
Tell the girls to make sure they get certificates so they can get consideration on deadlines etc, as it does make a difference.
All you can do now is keep going. Do what feels right for you, in the time frame that feels right.
It all helps eventually.

[pameladean]

I think of you often. If I can do anything, let me know. It seems unfair that you still have such a long journey, having been through so very much already.

P.

[kiwiria]

*hugs* There is no right or wrong way to grieve. Do what you feel is right.

You and your girls are in my thoughts and prayers.

[moodyduck]

With so much love in your family I would be surprised if such a loss were not difficult.

Many, many people have you and Fiona and Delia in our minds and hearts.

[(Anonymous)]

Hugs. It takes time. This is absolutely normal, but absolutely awful to process through. Many hugs, and know that you are the girls are being thought about and worried about. Hugs to all.

[serene]

A month is such a short time. I imagine this is a process that will take the rest of your life. I am sending you all the love I can muster. You deserve happiness and ease. I wish you at least a little of those while you heal.

[kk1raven]

I'm not surprised that grief is still kicking your ass. A month really isn't that long in comparison to your life together. If you feel like wearing black, wear black. When you're ready, wear something else. Don't pay attention to anyone or anything that tells you there is a schedule of grieving that you should adhere to. Do try to be kind and gentle to yourself. Grief is exhausting.

[laramie]

A month is nothing. I hope you'll give yourself all the time you need.