Will the family put up with my absence night after night?
How many nights are we talking about, as you progress in the sport? Three times a week? More? Your girls will start to get more competent in the kitchen as they get older. Would Rob be able to work a little less to help more at home? I think you are allowed to have something for yourself. If you were writing instead of kicking butt, you would still be unavailable - possibly more unavailable; the only difference is you'd be at home. I still feel guilty about taking one night a week off to take a community college course, but I also recognise that I am just as deserving of something for myself as anyone else in this household; Will runs 4 days/week, so that's quite a few hours he gets for his own thing. I don't complain because I know it's important for him, not just for health, but because the goals and achievement themselves are important. Our girls (well, MiniPlu - she's the only one old enough to understand) don't question it because they know that's just What Daddy Does. I think if you decide to pursue the karate, your family should be able to understand that as well, just as they get to pursue whateveritis they do.
And if Delia decides not to continue karate, wouldn't that free her up to try something else? Gymnastics or dance, maybe? (With that flexibility, it seems a shame not to use it to best advantage!) Art, soccer? Does she still play violin?
I recognise that I tend to take a somewhat 'male' approach to problems, trying to find answers and I know that sometimes it's not really that simple, so if I sound too, um, know-it-all or preachy or something, I apologize.
(Oh, and I think that a sense of your own power can be sexy. Enjoy it!)
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Date: 2005-07-16 12:39 am (UTC)How many nights are we talking about, as you progress in the sport? Three times a week? More? Your girls will start to get more competent in the kitchen as they get older. Would Rob be able to work a little less to help more at home? I think you are allowed to have something for yourself. If you were writing instead of kicking butt, you would still be unavailable - possibly more unavailable; the only difference is you'd be at home. I still feel guilty about taking one night a week off to take a community college course, but I also recognise that I am just as deserving of something for myself as anyone else in this household; Will runs 4 days/week, so that's quite a few hours he gets for his own thing. I don't complain because I know it's important for him, not just for health, but because the goals and achievement themselves are important. Our girls (well, MiniPlu - she's the only one old enough to understand) don't question it because they know that's just What Daddy Does. I think if you decide to pursue the karate, your family should be able to understand that as well, just as they get to pursue whateveritis they do.
And if Delia decides not to continue karate, wouldn't that free her up to try something else? Gymnastics or dance, maybe? (With that flexibility, it seems a shame not to use it to best advantage!) Art, soccer? Does she still play violin?
I recognise that I tend to take a somewhat 'male' approach to problems, trying to find answers and I know that sometimes it's not really that simple, so if I sound too, um, know-it-all or preachy or something, I apologize.
(Oh, and I think that a sense of your own power can be sexy. Enjoy it!)