I do recommend that if you consider changing churches, you involve the girls in the process or at least keep them updated on what's going on.
When I was a kid, my parents changed churches (from an LCA church-- now ELCA to a Missouri Synod one). It was because they were having my brother and I switch from public school to a Lutheran grade school and the school was affiliated with this new church and it made since 'cuz we'd be getting confirmation class at the grade school. Plus, as I understand it, my parents didn't like the politics at the old church. And they thought the synod was getting away from fundamentals, etc. In other words: they had their reasons (some of 'em darn good ones).
But while I know my brother and I knew a bit of this at the time, I also know that the actual switch seemed a shock anyway. One week we were at one church, the next at a new one. I didn't feel like I got to properly say goodbye to the old (and the people at it, even though I wasn't really close to anyone by the time we left).
It was especially rough on me 'cuz we went from a church where I had just started taking communion to a church where I wasn't allowed to take communion 'til I was confirmed. Confused me. I should've talked to my parents about it, I don't think they knew how much that bugged me (or how much the seemingly sudden switch did). But I was quiet and shy and not one to speak up and pretty good at hiding how I felt.
I'm rambling. Anyway. You probably know this, but I'd recommend you be sure to keep the girls in the loop. And maybe even if you think you are, you might want to doublecheck somehow.
I ended up resenting all things church for a long time (until my time at the area Lutheran High School, when I took an independent study cource on C.S. Lewis . . . ).
Which reminds me, I need to go shopping for a church in Minneapolis. Probably a Lutheran one, though I'm open to other possibilities (and I know Kevin would be more comfortable probably at a unitarian church). I'll let you know if I run across any that strike me as particularly cool! (But it's so hard to tell from just a visit, y'know?)
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Date: 2004-09-12 07:45 am (UTC)I do recommend that if you consider changing churches, you involve the girls in the process or at least keep them updated on what's going on.
When I was a kid, my parents changed churches (from an LCA church-- now ELCA to a Missouri Synod one). It was because they were having my brother and I switch from public school to a Lutheran grade school and the school was affiliated with this new church and it made since 'cuz we'd be getting confirmation class at the grade school. Plus, as I understand it, my parents didn't like the politics at the old church. And they thought the synod was getting away from fundamentals, etc. In other words: they had their reasons (some of 'em darn good ones).
But while I know my brother and I knew a bit of this at the time, I also know that the actual switch seemed a shock anyway. One week we were at one church, the next at a new one. I didn't feel like I got to properly say goodbye to the old (and the people at it, even though I wasn't really close to anyone by the time we left).
It was especially rough on me 'cuz we went from a church where I had just started taking communion to a church where I wasn't allowed to take communion 'til I was confirmed. Confused me. I should've talked to my parents about it, I don't think they knew how much that bugged me (or how much the seemingly sudden switch did). But I was quiet and shy and not one to speak up and pretty good at hiding how I felt.
I'm rambling. Anyway. You probably know this, but I'd recommend you be sure to keep the girls in the loop. And maybe even if you think you are, you might want to doublecheck somehow.
I ended up resenting all things church for a long time (until my time at the area Lutheran High School, when I took an independent study cource on C.S. Lewis . . . ).
Which reminds me, I need to go shopping for a church in Minneapolis. Probably a Lutheran one, though I'm open to other possibilities (and I know Kevin would be more comfortable probably at a unitarian church). I'll let you know if I run across any that strike me as particularly cool! (But it's so hard to tell from just a visit, y'know?)