I would suggest that you take a close look at the youth programs, both as they are and as they are likely to be. Will the girls feel comfortable there? Will the youth leaders maintain a healthy and interesting environment? Youth programs, if run badly, can be even more clique-ridden and distancing than the schools. You don't want your girls to get through confirmation and then drop out because they don't feel involved or welcome. Remember that the politics of the church at large are likely to filter down into the youth programs and the way they are run. You say that the girls already don't like the youth director; if she is replaced soon, you may have a chance to reevaluate, but if not...you're stuck. Are there others involved with the youth program who can make up for the failings of the director? Or does the director control everything? Think hard about who will be in charge of most of the youth activities for the next several years in making a decision.
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Date: 2004-09-12 12:55 pm (UTC)I do speak very much from experience.