Fierce mother love
Feb. 11th, 2005 05:24 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
pegkerrSarah Brady, I am so desperately sorry.
Pregnant woman kills attacker.
You had to kill to save your child before you could even hold her in your arms. I am so glad that it will be you who will hold her, and not your murderer.
One of the biggest mental shifts, I discovered, about becoming a mother is that your locus of self-preservation totally changes. You now no longer care so much about doing anything to save yourself. You will instead now do anything to save your child. That is part of the reason I am now taking karate. I don't think I would have, or could have, before I became a mother. But faced with a threat to my darling daughters? Watch out, because I'm deadly dangerous.
Lois McMaster Bujold said that when a mother gives birth, she is like Kali the Destroyer: simultaneously bringing both one life and one death into the world. I am so sorry that you were faced with another woman who wanted to steal your birth, and so you were forced to deal out her death.
I fervantly hope that when you soon hold your baby in your arms, rather than cradled underneath your heart, you will see that it had to be done. Forgive yourself; there was nothing else you could have done.
Oh, and congratulations on having a daughter. I know you will teach her to be as fierce and strong as you.
Pregnant woman kills attacker.
You had to kill to save your child before you could even hold her in your arms. I am so glad that it will be you who will hold her, and not your murderer.
One of the biggest mental shifts, I discovered, about becoming a mother is that your locus of self-preservation totally changes. You now no longer care so much about doing anything to save yourself. You will instead now do anything to save your child. That is part of the reason I am now taking karate. I don't think I would have, or could have, before I became a mother. But faced with a threat to my darling daughters? Watch out, because I'm deadly dangerous.
Lois McMaster Bujold said that when a mother gives birth, she is like Kali the Destroyer: simultaneously bringing both one life and one death into the world. I am so sorry that you were faced with another woman who wanted to steal your birth, and so you were forced to deal out her death.
I fervantly hope that when you soon hold your baby in your arms, rather than cradled underneath your heart, you will see that it had to be done. Forgive yourself; there was nothing else you could have done.
Oh, and congratulations on having a daughter. I know you will teach her to be as fierce and strong as you.
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Date: 2005-02-11 11:44 pm (UTC)I am so glad though that the mother did fend off her attacker. What a horrid thing to deal with!
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Date: 2005-02-11 11:48 pm (UTC)I was very surprised when I discovered, three years into motherhood, that there were things I would do to protect my child that I would not have done to protect myself. Doing those things gave benefit to me, but that is not why I did them.
Kali indeed.
I suppose that's what I find so unnatural about a mother killing her children. Though I suppose that is also an expression of nature, of some kind or another. I have a hard time understanding it except as a kind of insanity, which I think all mothers are familiar with even when they don't respond violently.
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Date: 2005-02-12 12:27 am (UTC)You know your mother's not a pushover when...
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