Mommy madness
Feb. 16th, 2005 04:32 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
pegkerrBoy, this article hit the nail on the head for me.
She discusses what I first started thinking about when I read Penelope Leach's books on parenting: that the problem for American parents (and especially American mothers) is that they think that all the problems they're encountering are just their individual faults, when really the reasons they're suffering are systemic, because they are not getting the support for their role that they deserve--that all the vaunted support that America gives their parents, and especially mothers, is little more than lip service.
She discusses what I first started thinking about when I read Penelope Leach's books on parenting: that the problem for American parents (and especially American mothers) is that they think that all the problems they're encountering are just their individual faults, when really the reasons they're suffering are systemic, because they are not getting the support for their role that they deserve--that all the vaunted support that America gives their parents, and especially mothers, is little more than lip service.
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Re: Thesis statement: YMMV.
Date: 2005-02-17 04:06 pm (UTC)Generally, sure. Through life experience I have a certain amount of extra patience for folks with disabilities, so the hearing aid thing doesn't bother me unless theres some deliberate jackassery going on.
There's a big difference between a screaming child in a movie and a child talking in a normal child-tone in a restaurant, even at 9 p.m.
Define a 'normal child-tone'? If you're talking about a kid talking in a normal, indoor voice, sure. I don't mind kids voices if they're talking to their parents without shouting them down or being rude. But I also don't have any patience for, for example, a kid standing on the seat behind me and saying 'hi' to me over and over, even in a normal voice. Kids need to behave, and if they aren't behaving parents shouldn't be ignoring them and forcing ME to deal with them.
And in movies, there's a difference between an adult whispering once and a kid whispering constantly because he doesn't want to be there/doesn't understand the movie.
I've had experiences (in Denny's, granted) where a kid threw crayons at me until I turned around and told him to stop throwing things at me, please, I'm trying to eat... and then had the 'parent' yell at ME for daring to talk to their kid because the kid is 'just playing'.
Play away, but keep your crayons out of my salad, thanks.
You have no objection, then, to the same being true for adults--for you to live under rules made for idiot adults?
We do, actually, or at least one where the laws are enforced in favor of the idiots (I'm assuming you're American.)