In the past year, I found myself feeling stuck in work I was doing. When I voiced this feeling to people - my friends/family, my therapist - they disagreed and pointed out all the progress I was making and all the things I'd done. And I had to admit they were correct that I had done these things, and these things were meaningful, but I still felt stuck.
And, as it turned out, I was right. I *was* stuck. And I found some ways past it and I (eventually - it took so /long/!) figured out the next piece of what I needed to be doing, and now I feel less stuck and like I have some keys to get where I need to go, even if I'm not quite sure where that is.
So when you say you feel stuck, that's what I think about. And I hope that you find what you need to find, too, and that you hold onto the ability to believe yourself when you identify your feelings, whatever anyone else says.
(I'm kind of projecting, here, of course - I do know that. But that's what experience is for, I suppose. Take what sounds right and toss the rest.)
I'm thinking of you a lot. I don't seem to have anything useful to say; our circumstances are so different that we don't do being a writer the same way, so what I mean as encouraging won't sound right. But I'm thinking of you.
To borrow a phrase, yes, one must face consequences, but one must also beware getting hyponotized by the hard choices. I know I have a strong tendency towards feeling like, if one possible choice is harder for me, then it must be the right one--which, logically speaking, makes no sense at all.
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Date: 2005-07-25 04:18 am (UTC)Yeah, that one's worth thinking about.
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Date: 2005-07-25 04:29 am (UTC)In the past year, I found myself feeling stuck in work I was doing. When I voiced this feeling to people - my friends/family, my therapist - they disagreed and pointed out all the progress I was making and all the things I'd done. And I had to admit they were correct that I had done these things, and these things were meaningful, but I still felt stuck.
And, as it turned out, I was right. I *was* stuck. And I found some ways past it and I (eventually - it took so /long/!) figured out the next piece of what I needed to be doing, and now I feel less stuck and like I have some keys to get where I need to go, even if I'm not quite sure where that is.
So when you say you feel stuck, that's what I think about. And I hope that you find what you need to find, too, and that you hold onto the ability to believe yourself when you identify your feelings, whatever anyone else says.
(I'm kind of projecting, here, of course - I do know that. But that's what experience is for, I suppose. Take what sounds right and toss the rest.)
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Date: 2005-07-25 04:34 am (UTC)P.
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Date: 2005-07-25 11:27 am (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2005-07-25 07:01 pm (UTC)Which is to say, yes. Accepting and dealing with consequences, in whatever arena, should not equal martyrdom.