Even if she has all those physical problems, "your obesity will kill you" is still plain wrong. Obese people do manage good diabetic control, with medication, nutrition, and exercise, while still being obese; and I know hypertension and esophageal reflux can be treated medically. If he meant, "You are not controlling you diabetes," or whatever, he should have said it exactly that way. He was fear-monering, which is never a good motivator over the long term (short-term, yes), and making an exaggerated and unprofessional statement about her health. And then the comment about her love life was unprofessional, uncalled for, and untrue. As far as I can see, the problem was not that he dared say she was obese (which I'm sre she knew), but the way he said it.
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Date: 2005-08-25 12:52 am (UTC)