Meredith Brooks - Bitch

[pegkerr]

I know I'm late to the party, but this is my new personal theme song.

The lyrics go:

I hate the world today
You're so good to me, I know, but I can't change
Tried to tell you, but you look at me like maybe,
I'm an angel underneath, innocent and sweet
Yesterday I cried
You must have been relived to see the softer side
I can understand how you'd be so confused
I don't envy you
I'm a little bit of everything, all rolled into one

Chorus:
I'm a bitch, I'm a lover, I'm a child, I'm a mother
I'm a sinner, I'm a saint, I do not feel ashamed
I'm your hell, I'm your dream, I'm nothin' in between
You know you wouldn't want it any other way

So take me as I am, this may mean
You'll have to be a stronger man
Rest assure that when I start to make you nervous
and I'm goin' to extremes, tomorrow I will change
And today won't mean a thing

Chorus

Just when you think you got me figured out
The seasons already changin'
I think it's cool, you do what you do
and don't try to save me

Chorus

I'm a bitch, I'm a tease , I'm a goddess on my knees
When you hurt, when you suffer,
I'm your angel undercover
I've been numb, I'm revived, can't say I'm not alive
You know I wouldn't want it any other way

I first learned of this song when Fiona, for a Christmas present, gave me a DVD/movie with photographs of me (doing karate, cooking, laughing, doing things with my girls) with this as the soundtrack. I love it that my fourteen year old daughter thought that this song sums me up.

I think it means I must be doing something right.

Question for parents: Tell me about something that happened with your child that made you think, "Damn, I'm doing this parenting right."

Comments

[chaeche.livejournal.com]

I've been thinking about doing a Harry/Draco vid to this song.

[pegkerr.livejournal.com]

*laughs* I'd love to see it!

[aome.livejournal.com]

When both girls wanted to donate money to MiniPlu's friend after the dad lost his eyesight.

Also, whenever I have one girl alone and she receives a treat of some kind (stickers, candy), she almost always (spontaneously and voluntarily) asks if she can have an extra for her sister.

[katakanadian.livejournal.com]

I realize that you are talking about personal interactions and gifts but it got me thinking about a pet peeve I frequently encounter at work.

As someone who often dispenses those stickers/etc in a class, I wish kids wouldn't ask for an extra for their sibling. I think it sets up inappropriate expectations. It's not a far step to "Can my friend/sibling come play with us in the foam pit during class?" or "Can I play on the trampoline while I wait for Mom to pick me up?" Kids need to learn boundaries like temporal limits to activities and participation limits in organized classes.

[aome.livejournal.com]

Hmmm. I agree that you want to reward someone for actually participating in something, and not the person who didn't. However, I disagree that it's "not a far step" to "can they come play on the equipment"? A sticker is just a little item. Playing on equipment they are not educated in is dangerous. Not on par at all, and I think that difference can be easily explainable to any child. And even if the non-present sister didn't necessarily endure the dentist, I still think it's admirable that they are thinking of each other, and wanting the other one to have those small pleasures, too. The person giving out the stickers/candy/whatever certainly is not obligated to comply if they feel it's inappropriate, but the gesture of thinking of someone other than yourself is still positive, I think.

[katakanadian.livejournal.com]

However, I disagree that it's "not a far step" to "can they come play on the equipment"?
Actually it tends to be the same kids who ask for an extra sticker and constantly ask for all kinds of extras which is why I said it's not a far step. Maybe our different environments bring out different motivations behind the same request.

[huladavid.livejournal.com]

Well, this is more "Damn< my brother and sister-in-law" are doing this parenting thing right", but when I was visiting 'em last summer Charlie (who was 13 at the time) was setting himself up for a good argument with Jeff (the aforementioned brother). Before he could get a good head of steam up Jeff turned to Charlie and asked, "Is this teen-aged angst?"

Charlie paused for a couple of seconds and then said, "Yeah... It is", and immediately calmed down.

[bekkio.livejournal.com]

Ah, I saw your post after I saw Heidi's pointing here. I picked Bitch also - I just think it's such an empowering song.

It's funny though - my girls freak out every time I put it on and sing along at the top of my lungs because of the "bad language".

[pegkerr.livejournal.com]

Maybe it's something about being women taking karate! We feel empowered already.

[diatryma.livejournal.com]

When I was... um, I have no idea how old I was. I think my sister was at horse camp with me, anyway. But I was at horse camp, in the older girls' dorm, and for some reason that song was everywhere. We all knew every word. We sang them constantly-- we sang constantly. I miss that, the singing and the songs.
I've never had a copy of the song. I'm too inert about music-buying. I think I'll keep this tab open so I can play it over the next few days.

[papersky.livejournal.com]

Fairly recently, Z was complaining about how much his girlfriend's parents suck. I said cautiously "I thought you thought we sucked?" "Yeah, you suck..." he said. "But it's kind of like democracy, you know?"

That he knows the quote, and that he thinks that, made me think I was doing something right.