My mother and father celebrated their sixtieth wedding anniversary this year. To celebrate it, they planned to take a European cruise. Here is the picture that my sister Betsy took of the two of them when she dropped them off at the airport.

The last leg was planned so that they would join up with their dear friend from high school, Richard Serrin, who is living in Florence, Italy with his wife Dorothy. I got a call from Mom on Sunday saying that they were at Richard and Dorothy's, that the trip was wonderful and they were having a marvelous time. They had planned to come back tomorrow.
I received a call at work today from Italy from my Mom to tell me that my Dad went to take a nap, and he died in his sleep. My mom found him. They called the paramedics, but there was nothing that could be done. Thank god, thank god, my mother was with very dear friends when this happened, people who live in the country and speak the language, and she and Dad had purchased travel insurance for their trip. The flights back were cancelled, and now my poor mother has to deal with all the logistics. But because of the travel insurance, she'll be covered for all the extra expenses and I am sure they will give her logistical help.
My father was a remarkable man, and I loved him very much. I will write more about him later. But I just wanted to get the word out for now.
I left work as soon as I received the call. I drove to Augsburg to tell Fiona the news personally, and then we went together to pick up Delia and told her, too. So both girls received the news in person.
I think it was a remarkable way for Dad to go. He had a great year. He and Mom had just moved here to Minnesota in the last couple years after 18 years in Georgia, and being the busy, gregarious people they are, they have already put down deep roots, joining a church and getting involved in Rotary (Dad) and the local music scene (Mom). They had just gone down to the Dominican Republic to install Bio-sand waterfilters. He had just completed a big fundraising campaign with his Rotary group. He had taken a cross-country train trip to go back to his college for a college reunion, and he had gone out to California to connect with good friends out there. He was on a dream vacation with his wife to celebrate 60 years of marriage. He was with his best friend and his wife, who are there to support my mom. All his faculties were intact. He died in a city he loved, in his sleep, without pain.
I am also grateful that I had invited them over to dinner just before they left for their trip. I still have wine on the counter that Dad brought for me as a gift. Fiona came home from college to join us too, and we had a wonderful evening talking. I am so, so glad that that was my last time with my father.
He told us every time that he saw us that he loved us. We have no strained memories, no griefs or regrets, nothing left unsaid, no unfinished business.
I don't know what will be happening the next several days.
Think of me and my family.