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I am seeing someone.

His name is Eric, and he was a classmate of mine at St. Olaf. We didn't know each other at school really at all--knew each other's name, maybe, as my graduating class was reasonably sized, but we never took a class together.

We reconnected at the 2012 St. Olaf 30-year reunion. We happened to get seated next to each other at the dinner, and he made some passing remark about Harry Potter. I lit up like a firefly and talked his ear off.

When I lost my job in 2016, I reached out to everyone I could think of to do informational interviewing, and I called him up to talk about his company. When our conversation was over, he said, "You know, I've been thinking about doing some career re-alignment myself. How about we check in with each other every couple of months, just to see how the job hunt is going?" So we did that. We found we had a lot in common, including some parenting issues.

When the 2017 reunion came around, he asked if I would be going. I said I wouldn't because I couldn't afford to--Rob was really sick, and funds were limited. He offered to pay for my ticket, and we drove to the reunion together.

He never met Rob, but he did come to the funeral.

We checked in occasionally during the summer of 2018 and went to a movie together. In November, I wanted to go to a one-man show of A Christmas Carol, and Fiona wasn't available, so I called Eric.

Things have taken off from there.

He reminds me of Rob in some ways: he has the same Myers Briggs type as Rob did, he's also an attorney, and he's a Ravenclaw like Rob was. But he reminds me of me, too. He has had some frustrations about being in the wrong job for too long. He went to the same college I did, he went to study abroad in England like I did (we went different semesters), he has spent time making his living as a writer, and we share a personal faith, which is something that was never important to Rob.

But of course, when it comes down to it, he is neither Rob nor me. He is himself. And I am enjoying getting to know him.

He has two sons, a little younger than Fiona and Delia.

We read books together. I have introduced him to Pamela Dean's Tam Lin, which he absolutely loved, and we're reading War for the Oaks together now. He brings me flowers.

We make each other happy, for now.

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Date: 2019-03-22 03:58 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] redbird
That is good news; may you continue to make each other happy.

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Date: 2019-03-22 04:41 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] sraun
Good for you!

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Date: 2019-03-22 06:19 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] queenbookwench
I’m happy for you!

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Date: 2019-03-22 07:18 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] julian
Slow-burn, making each other happy (for now) relationships are one very good type of relationship (there's others!), and I'm glad you're happy in this particular way.

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Date: 2019-03-22 10:20 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] castiron
I'm very happy that you've found someone to enjoy time with!

I hope the basement issues can be fixed with a manageable amount of expense and disruption.

The Little Free Library design is lovely.

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Date: 2019-03-23 03:23 am (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] dreamshark
Nice to hear. Will he be attending Minicon? I'd love to meet him.
Edited Date: 2019-03-23 03:24 am (UTC)

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Date: 2019-03-23 06:18 am (UTC)
From: [personal profile] ndrosen
This is good news. I’m sorry to hear about the flooding and the foundation; I might be able to chip in a little with your repair costs.

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Date: 2019-03-23 11:47 am (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] mrissa
When my friend A's fiancee C died suddenly, and then awhile later he told me he was seeing someone else, I worried that the new person would be either attempting to replace C or attempting to be her complete opposite so he wouldn't think of her. (The latter condition is apparently the one fit by my dad's stepmother. Sigh.) I need not have worried: his now-wife has several shining traits in common with C but is her own person, and A has always treated her that way.

I'm really glad it can be like that for you too.

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Date: 2019-03-24 04:29 am (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] lapin_agile
Peg, I’m delighted for you. I’m so glad you are finding happiness.

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Date: 2019-03-24 08:50 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] aome
I'm glad things have gotten strong enough that you are able to tell us! I hope you continue to make each other happy. Do your daughters and his sons get along (have they even met?)? I'm glad you are happy - you deserve to be happy. <3

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Date: 2019-03-25 11:22 am (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] malinaldarose
Good for you!

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Date: 2019-03-25 12:15 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] kiwiria
Very good news! You do sound happy :-)

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Date: 2019-04-09 11:38 am (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] pru
I am very, very happy for you. :)

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Date: 2019-04-09 10:51 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] kk1raven
He sounds really nice. I hope it works out for the two of you.


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