Seeking coddling suggestions

[pegkerr]

Rob has recovered from the flu, physically, but it really knocked him flat, and I sense that he isn't quite back to normal. He says that he feels unfocused, as if he has lost all his momentum. I sense the need to coddle him a bit.

A couple of weeks ago, there was a snowfall, and his car was parked on the street, and I knew he was running a few minutes late, so I went and cleaned his car off before going to work myself. It was fun to give him that little surprise, and he told me later that he was really touched, that it got his day off to a good start.

Am curious and am looking for suggestions: what sorts of nice things do you do to show your partner you love him/her, esp. when you sense he or she is struggling a bit? I had mentioned The Couple's Comfort Book to kijjohnson lately, and I need to re-read it for ideas, but I'm curious to hear yours.

What do you do to nurture your partner?

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[gamps-garret.livejournal.com]

The things I have always done have all been covered, so I'll share one of the things my long-ago ex used to do for me.

Being obsessive compulsive about some things, I always have a list in my head of things that "must be done" as soon as I walk in the door. Basic stuff -- trash, recycling, change out the laundry, empty the dishwasher, straighten stuff, make sure I have everything needed for dinner, etc. And they all changed on a given day. If I wasn't feeling great, but was okay enough to go about normal day's routine, Nik tried to have all of the "little things" I always worried about taken care of within ten minutes of us being home. Though it was probably as much for her benefit as mine, I relaxed quickly and was able to just veg for the evening. :-)