Equalibrium and disequalibrium

[pegkerr]

I mentioned that things are going rather well with Delia lately. This is a pleasant change.

Which means that it must be time for Fiona to enter disequalibrium, and right on schedule, that is what has happened. Come to think of it, she was in an equally bad state when school started last year. She has come back from camp mentally rumpled, with a tendency toward teariness--she has cried herself to sleep the least three nights. And she can't in the least explain why; she is perplexed at her own moodiness and has no idea what is going on.

She is also insisting, even more stridently, that she wants her own room.

This makes me want to cry myself.

I think we have definitely entered puberty. I don't feel ready for this.

I can't give up my office entirely.

Damnation.

Comments

[litgirl101.livejournal.com]

Jonquil makes good point. As a teacher of adolescents, I agree that asking for her own room may not even be the real issue and getting it may solve nothing. It's her age, her hormones, etc. Address the child herself, with love, reassurance, and patience, as best you can and as much as she'll let you. That's all you can do. Girl siblings that close in age will fight when they are together so much - I know firsthand - you can ask Dave, he witnessed atrocious spats between my sister and me! - but I would have felt very lonely without my sister in my room. When she would go out for the evening (she is two years older than me) I could never sleep until I heard her crawl into bed. And now, she is my best, most trusted friend, as long as we spend less than 48 hours together. At about 48 hours, the carrieage becomes a pumpkin again and we scrap! But sharing a room did not cause that.