bad_feminists

[pegkerr]

As a result of some of the comments on my last few entries, lilsonna has made a new community, bad_feminists ("Created for those of us who no longer can quite use the phrase 'oppressive dominant patriarchy' with a straight face but still consider themselves strong feminists.")

What shall we do with it, everybody?

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[lindelea1.livejournal.com]

Sheesh. I'd say "still consider themselves strong feminists" would rather X out the "anti-feminist" charge, wouldn't you?

OTOH I don't know exactly where I stand. Sometimes "feminisim" seems to mean "open season on women by *women*". It's hard enough to be a woman among men in the workplace without having other women stab you in the back. But I remember from my days at an "outside job" that the women had the capacity to be nastier than the men. Much nastier. Why is that?

I haven't called myself a "feminist" for a long time now. That doesn't make me "anti-feminist" necessarily. I'm just "anti" the people who don't believe that a woman should follow her calling, if it happens to be at home, raising her own children. The ones who say I wasted my college degree and managerial experience when I decided to leave the workplace.

I'm all for equal opportunity.

I don't think "male bashing" is particularly profitable. "Feminism" as used in society today seems to have become associated with shrill and angry rhetoric and very little listening and thinking about the viewpoints of others who may see things differently.

(OTOH there are an awful lot of women out there working away quietly at making the world a better place. They call themselves feminists, but they say it quietly because the word has been tarnished. Do I need to say how?)

Are many of those grating voices still around? I've been too happy in the place I've chosen, to pay much heed, the past few years.

It has been much too much fun to participate in such an abundance of "life" and watch little ones grow in knowledge and grace and (potential) independence, to celebrate their strengths and guide their perception of what they might do with their lives. (And what is that, you ask? Anything they want, that their gifts lead them to do, I'd say... and hopefully in service to greater good and not selfishness.)